The Purpose Of The Forum

[Deleted member 12723]

I am struggling along with you Britt, and Movin On. i too got blamed for when my sister did things. I got hit too.
I know what it feels like to be hurt and embarressed in front of other people.

Deb I like the term Linking Arms. It is a good analogy. This is a pretty good place. I appreciate you advising caution in what we say in response. I have been doing that. I am taking my time to reflect before I type. I rewrite too.

I still have a long way to go to lovingly confront people. I am still practicising. I hope I can become a better communicator. I need the skills. Being on the forum is helping me to do that. Thank you so much.

 

[JustBe]

I have learned a lot from this thread. I hadn't realized how insecure I was until I took this to heart.

I feel stronger and more aware now. Thank you.;)

 

[Whitneys story]

ITL, Excellent reminder for all. I have gained so much from this forum. There are so many caring people here.

And it is like getting shortcuts with benefits when others experience like symptoms and share.

Maybe you would also consider putting this on the Positives for New Members? Hint and Hugs, Whitney

 

[Shellbell]

I really like Britt.f7's suggestion about sending a private message if you are upset or confused by something that has been written. I've seen people have a go at forum members in a public way, which is not necessary, is very upsetting and causes hurt, which can be avoided.

This is a great thread and a good reminder for us all. Words can have a big impact and we all want them to be positive. Hurt can be avoided thinking first before posting and by walking away and coming back when calmer if necessary.

Thank you intothelight!

 

[anni]

This IS a wonderful thread. I've been at this awhile- thinking perhaps something I had to say was SOOO important it was worth putting my adrenaline through the roof to stand my ground, or not having enough respect across the board to balance the conversation, or even have the common sense to be friggin FIFTY FOUR years old and just grow up, already. At the other end of the ego spectrum, what one has to say/think/feel IS valid and important sometimes, you have to allow yourself the God-given right of just plain a little elbow room a the table of community here. Balance, like anything else, from walking onwards- kind of the key to Life, The Universe, and Everything. :alien: ( That's for the Universe portion of the sentence. )

Like any other internet resource, this can be used as a weapon, same as FB, if YOU allow yourself to be affected. That's only part of it, but an important part. The good, healing and community aspects here are just too valuable to allow oneself to get sidetracked 'over there', is the thing. I won't get wordy, 'preachy' people are annoying My personal little helpful hint ( one of them ) to disengage if I'm in danger these days of taking myself or someone else a little too seriously? On the grounds that this stuff has to be water off a duck's back, I say ( not lying- just one of THOSE things we all tend to do... kind of tricking our heads into behaving ) ' Ducks ducks DUCKS! ' out loud to myself, thereby sounding silly. It works, too- will click away and then STOP.

Confuses the bejeesis out of the husband though.

 

[HëllaBubz]

So long as we keep in mind that everyone here is always thinking about the best for us, and are supporting us, it should be a little slower with taking offence when we keep that in mind.