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Supporter The Struggle Is Real, Hoping To Find Some Support

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Good morning

I'm 32, live in Texas, I have a 2 yr old son and engaged to a 1st batt Ranger who suffers from PTSD from serving during Operation Freedom.

He is currently on the highest dose of meds the VA will give him, but I fear it's only getting worse. Every day is a battle and I never know what side of him I will get. When things are good, they're great, when things are bad, I don't think I could feel any worse. The paranoia, insecurity, false accusations, temper, depression, and emotional disconnection is so overwhelming, for the both of us.

I spoke with the VA about us getting involved in couple's counseling, but instead was met with a director that basically belittled me for staying with him and told me my best option is to leave him.

Leaving him is not an option & never will be unless things turn physical for either my children or myself and that has yet to happen in the 4 years we've been together.

I feel really alone in this. Trying to be the emotionally strong one is taking its toll. I'm not the type to sit in a support group, so I'm reaching out in way I am more comfortable, so here I am.

I am hoping to find other mothers/wives with combat vets suffering from PTSD and hoping to gain some insight and coping mechanisms & just someone to talk with when things get rough.

PTSD can kiss my ass.. I refuse to let it defeat him, us, our family and although I'm growing weary, I refuse to surrender. I will not let it be victorious in destroying our family or him.

Please pray for us, I will be praying for all of you.

Thank you
 
Welcome. I am sorry to hear your pain, and I respect and admire the strength in your words. You are right - if you have clear boundaries, you don't have to leave him. You can heal together. Thank you for having the courage to reach out for support. I wish you all the best.
 
Welcome to the forum:) Sending my support.
Is your husband in therapy?
Are you in therapy for yourself?

If your not,please think about it.
It helped me a lot :)
 
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