Therapist Having An "off" Day?

[Britt.f7]

Hashi, did you end up talking to her about it? I find, if something is bothering me and I don't bring it up, that it will go around and around in my head. For this reason, more often then not, I will bring things up whether it be with my therapist or someone else. Of course, they may think I'm off my rocker, but I need to get the thoughts out of my head.

A few weeks ago, I noticed my therapist kept doing sideways glances at the clock. I didn't say anything, though I thought about it. If she would have done that the next time I definitely would have asked what's up as it really bothered me the first time.

I do hope you can work through this. Good luck.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I hate it when people yawn when I am talking, like they are bored. And I hate it when they keep looking at a clock.

I hope it goes well for you Hashi. You deserve so much good.

 

[Britt.f7]

Gizmo, sometimes because of my dysautonomia, I yawn uncontrollably and incessantly. So if I ever yawn with you know it is not because I am bored. ;)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Oh I am sorry you have that. Thanks for the disclaimer. I would not take your yawning personally. How long have you had it?

 

[Britt.f7]

They say I've had it my whole life, but they only diagnosed it for sure about 8 or so years ago. Between that and my heart issues, I don't always get a lot of oxygen to my head. Explains a lot. :rolleyes:

 

[Abstract]

Hashi,
I actually hope you bring it up as everything that comes into the so called "therapeutic space" is relevant to your therapy.

If she handles it well then she will judge what will be in your best interests. Telling you what it is can make you focus on her problems rather that yours. Telling you there is nothing there can make you think she has a problem with you rather than having problems of her own.

I hope it goes well!

 

[DharmaGirl]

I am learning clarifying with my T. He has said some stuff that I thought was mean and flippant, so I would let it go until I would get terribly mad and fire him. For the first time in a year, I sent him an email asking what he meant, and he clarified. It was nothing like I thought. It makes me feel better to do this. Maybe it would work for you too.

 

[therapybankrupt]

Sometimes I think our mind can just take us off to who knows where. But on the other hand you feel something is wrong in your gut. It is then time to put the question out there. I hope you had a good session today!:hug: We all have off days. Wishing you the best!

 

[Shellbell]

Hashi, how was your latest T session? Just hoping it went okay?

 

[YogiBear]

I would say I am a lot like you. I am presently reading a book titled Conquering PTSD. I am trying to take things less personally, meaning people sometimes just have off-days and do not pre-meditatively seek to hurt us. They're victorious nonetheless. I don't see anything wrong with discussing it with her. We should feel comfortable enough to discuss such matters tactfully.

Kind regards,
YogiBear

 

[Hashi]

I am trying to take things less personally, meaning people sometimes just have off-days and do not pre-meditatively seek to hurt us...

I've been talking in T recently about not taking things personally, lol. So this is very apt.

Thank you all for your thoughts and for asking how it's going. Last week at T I had something an off day myself (I've been having a grim time and have been struggling badly). My T was wonderful. I can see that she still looks rough and tired in herself but she really helped me.

I think what's happening now is that I'm sensing that there's something wrong (for her), but it was only that first session after the break that it impacted on how she was with me. That was unnerving and worrying. I'm still feeling a bit wary, but I don't think I'm going to talk to her about it unless it becomes relevant to therapy again.

I'm sorry that she seems to be having such a hard time with something. I know she enjoys life and finds it meaningful, but of course that doesn't mean there's never any sadness or problems. I hope this doesn't sound callous because I don't mean it to be, but it's actually been helpful to me to think about how someone with much better life skills deals with difficulty.

Today was rough, and in my head I was running through my old "coping" methods that I'm trying to move away from, and the new coping methods that I'm trying to learn. I wondered what my T would do, rather than what my T would say. It's made it more real and a bit easier to see how to use other ways of coping.

The therapy relationship is very strange...

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Hashi, I am glad you are able to sort it out. That says alot about your inner strength and character. I am wishing you the very best in this situation.