Therapist Ignoring Me?

[ghotiff]

I wish I knew what to write. I can see how a break from therapy could be really helpful for you right now.

I don't think that she was toying with you (but I completely understand the fear of that...as children we were treated as toys by others).

A phrase that helps me is that: I trust my T to do her professional best, but I accept that sometimes I will need better than her best.

 

[shell]

Maybe your issues are beyond her abilities and it's not about you, but her not being the right person for you. Certainly it is possible you are not ready for the stage she would like you to be at, but then she should have addressed that and worked on helping you build up to that stage by giving you skills that would enable to better help yourself.

Don't give up on it, you just haven't met the right therapist for you, so long as you are committed to getting better that is all that matters, sometimes slow steps are faster in the long run. I didn't get anywhere with the first few therapist, but I am a totally different person than the one who first presented for therapy because I had to work on me before I worked on the trauma.

 

[GWhizz]

@shell that really resonated with me - I do need to work on me before I can work on the trauma. And yes I feel she could have helped me develop a better skillset to then cope with the processing.

@ghotiff yes I was trusting her to do her best. But I now realise that I do need more than this. I actually said this to her - that it's just not good enough for her to tell me she'll try her best to help me. I need to have a little assurance that she can actually help me!

Thank you both

 

[Gyu]

Don't worry. Even my theripist ignored my messages too. It is something normal maybe they had some issue coming up or like and emergency and then they forgot about it