Ah, I understand now. I agree with the above post. It's not necessarily the therapist you are upset with, it's the idea of what she suggested and that she had the audacity to bring up such a seemingly irrational suggestion. When I read your post, I remember noting your anger alone. Not towards anyone or anything, except that such rage was still inside you - and rightfully so. It reminds me of a time when my friend made a comment about me 'giving my mom a break' because she did the best she could with what she had/knew, and it would probably help me to get some help with all of this anger I had towards her. I snapped back and immediately dismissed her suggestion. I thought "who the eff are you? You clearly cannot fathom the pain and suffering this woman has inflicted upon me, AND you're supposed to be on MY side, as you're my FRIEND? Aren't you? Hmm, maybe I need to re-think our friendship!!"
End result: I did re-think our friendship. I realized this woman who I believed was my friend, was just that. She was coming from a place of caring and nothing else aside from trying to help me. Her approach and words pissed me off, but her intention was not to harm me. After quite a bit of thinking on it, I also realized that I likely would have responded the exact same way, not matter who made that statement. It simply where I was at in the process/my life. To this day, I'm still quite angry with my mother. But, because of the comment my friend made, I am now talking about it more. That's a huge step from where I was before.
