Therapist Told Me To Leave Him

[Nisiko]

So what happens when your therapist tells you to leave him because he's emotionally unavailable? Yes, I know he's emotionally unavailable to an extent - it's part of his PTSD. He's not abusive towards me, he's in therapy and he's improving.

Time to get a new therapist? She seems so cut and dried with her views. I'm not sure she will still want to work with me when I say I'm not leaving him.

 

[Dekoku]

Therapists can give suggestions, and it's always your choice to take or leave them.

 

[Soguz]

Therapists aren't meant to tell you what to do - they can get you to look at things differently but she should not be telling you to leave anyone unless you are in danger.

Think you might want to look for a new T

 

[Agun]

I'd look for another therapist. With the therapeutic relationship being dependent on both the therapist being emotionally available to each other, I'd take your therapist's comments to have 'helpful intention'; good of them to be honest. Therapist's don't 'have to' work with anyone. They are held, ethically, to making referrals, when they don't think that they can do job. As difficult as it is, I'd find someone else. Otherwise it can get into a power struggle.

 

[Epucak]

I'd look for another therapist. With the therapeutic relationship being dependent on both the therapist being emotionally available to each other, I'd take your therapist's comments to have 'helpful intention'; good of them to be honest. Therapist's don't 'have to' work with anyone. They are held, ethically, to making referrals, when they don't think that they can do job. As difficult as it is, I'd find someone else. Otherwise it can get into a power struggle

 

[Azum]

Is the therapist telling you to leave the therapist or is the therapist telling you to leave a significant other?

 

[Fegaj]

The T is telling nisiko to leave her or his partner

 

[Epucak]

Oh, correction taken. Sometimes it takes a lot for a therapist to be so direct, with their opinion. And, I agree, it is not their job to tell you what to do,with your life. Do what you think is best!

 

[Hete]

My relationship is like walking a wire, I told my therapist to quit telling me to look up from the wire, stop telling me to just fall into the net, I only get to be here on this wire if I stay alert to it and I don't need the distractions right now. The metaphore got the point across, you might have a similar discussion with your t.

 

[Hoso]

I would not leave the therapist just because you disagree with one opinion of theirs. I don't think any therapist and client always agree on everything - and if they did, one of them is lying either to them self or the other person.

So no, I would not let this be an excuse to run away from this therapist.

 

[Ifosu]

We're ALL emotionally unavailable to an extent!!! So I guess no sufferer deserves a partner? She shouldnt be telling you to leave him.

 

[Kidur]

We don't have enough info. Perhaps the original poster is seeing only what he/she wants to see, and is not seeing the big picture that the therapist is seeing, and is neither describing all of the details that lead the therapist to issue such a statement.