Therapy Today.

[renee5g]

Went for my weekly therapy and left feeling lost.I get he wants me to not fear going out shopping and such but I'm not worried about that right now.Im worried about not sleeping, not being able to think and function but he keeps dwelling on going out.Am I missing the point? I said I would try to do an outing but I said that more to shut him up.I like him but now I'm thinking maybe we are not seeing eye to eye.

 

[FindingMyself88]

I would share your concerns that you would like to make getting better rest your primary goal right now. It's your therapy- not his.

 

[barefoot]

I agree with @FindingMyself88 - it's your therapy so it's totally your right to be in the driving seat and to decide what you want to focus on.

Let him know that, at the moment, improving your sleep is your top priority. He should accept that. If he doesn't and is pushing a different agenda (Eg you going out more) then that's a conversation you can have together to see how it is that you're on different pages with this.

A therapist pushing their agenda instead of holding yours feels like a big red flag to me. That said, it might just take an honest, cards on the table, 'actually, this is my biggest issue right now that I would prefer to focus on' conversation to clear that up and get the pair of you back on course and moving in the same direction together. Hope so! :-)

 

[Friday]

Well... The upside to going out & getting completely overwhelmed is suddenly needing to sleep like the dead, for some people. Maybe he's looki at alternate sleep solutions?

If not, agreed. At the very least ask him why he's focused on socializing when what you feel is the most problematic are sleep & basic cognition?

 

[Panda Bear]

Sometimes I suck at communicating just how awful the sleep issue is. Thus, causing my T to have a lower reaction to my tired, overwhelmed thoughts. And I can totally see him doing something like you mentioned.

Like others suggested, try your best to talk about what is really the issue and in the most detail. Again, hard to do! But getting the conversation started is really half the battle!

 

[renee5g]

I can see that I have not been direct enough on what matters to me.I can see going out is important but not right now.I go next week and will try to reword how I feel.Thank you

 

[renee5g]

Well I went to my appointment and finally spoke up.I told him I need to work on what was going on in my head and lack of sleep.I also told him I could care less if I ever went to a mall or what ever.He listened and he didn't bring up going out until we were almost done and he didn't push the point.We talked about all the medical stuff that is coming up and how frightening it is to me,it helped. THANKS AGAIN

 

[Panda Bear]

@renee5g
Great job!!! Speaking up is a huge step! No matter how good a T is, they don't read minds, and it's especially hard to read the mind of a head that is flooded with a billion thoughts. :D:D