Thinking About Going Back To College

[Lady of Longbourn]

there should be a drop period

What do you mean?

What type of degree are you looking to get?

I have no idea...

I think you sound really excited and hopeful and you should go for it!

:D Thanks.

relax a little about the straight A's

I wish I could. :( I try but so far I haven't been able to.

I think your aim of going back to school is fabulous!

Thank you for your encouragement.

In what ways did disability services help you?

I had to have a note from my doctor to prove everything but they acted like a go-between. A middle man with my teachers. I got 'relaxed absences', 'relaxed due dates' and testing accommodations (which I didn't normally use). With my anxiety and doctor's appointments though the relaxed deadlines and absences was very helpful.

And also like @Solara said:

My advisor in the disability center helps if I'm having issues with a class or instructor.

@therisa It would be Spring 2014 actually. I haven't really given much thought to online becasue I really need to be around people, to push outward and get interaction. The more I isolate the worse I get.

You have a whole month to come up with some techniques to deal with the "just-in-case."

Yes. :)

If you find it's is still too much, then what? The world will not end and you will not end. You will not have failed but you will have learned something valuable about caring for yourself.

I am trying to think of it that way @Candleflames trying to remember all I learned but then I also think about the money lost from the classes I had to drop.

 

[Ghostybear73]

Well, every school has a drop policy. At mine, its one week and you can drop as though it never happened. Prior to week 3, you can drop with a withdrawal, which won't affect you gpa. There is a time period after that that you can drop, but it goes in as a WF, which does reflect your gpa. Check into the policy that they have at the school you are planning to go to. Hopefully this gives you some piece of mind and gives you a little push to get yourself back in school. :)

 

[Ghostybear73]

Look, a smily! Thanks all knowing one, you are truly awesome!

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

@Ghostybear73 Okay, I know about the drop period. I have used it a lot in the past. It just wasn't clicking with me in your post for some reason.The drop period really saved my GPA.

I shouldn't have said that 'all knowing' stuff in chat. :cautious::laugh: :D Thanks for making me fall over laughing. :roflmao:

 

[Candleflames]

Money lost is unfortunate and I understand the disappointment in that happening.

On the other hand we drop money on events and places where all we walk away with is the memory of the time. I'm thinking about fairs, conferences, seminars, amusement parks, theater tickets and dinners out. In some ways the money spent on those types of items is similar. You'll never get the money back and you don't really have anything tangible to show for it. The experience is still with you regardless of the outcome. :)

For what it's worth, I think you have a great plan to take the two classes with your favorite instructor. I think you you should go for it, go slowly, but still go for it.

 

[Ghostybear73]

@Ayesha, I'm glad you did or I would not have had anything up my sleeve to make you laugh.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I feel like my brain must have spent the entire night thinking about this while I was asleep.

My therapist never responded to my email about thinking of going back. It's not really a big deal becasue I can make up my own mind without his approval/permission or whatever but it would have been nice to hear how he supports me anyway.

Husband is supportive and hasn't mentioned money or that I've wasted money in the past. He first response was "I think you should." but yesterday he pointed out that it's the holiday's now and to think about it after that.

Today is another day. I feel I am coping with this well. Every once in awhile I get worried about the school work, mostly if I will understand it and not fail an assignment. Yup, that's me. Worrying about something that hasn't happened yet. :rolleyes:

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I go from being happy and excited to feeling stupid and thinking to just give it [college] up.

:confused::(

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I tried to sit down with my husband and talk about it. It's after the holidays now so I wanted to talk and decided it I should go or not.

But he wanted to have this big talk about 'Where do I see myself in 5 years?", he wanted me to get an academic/life coach and started talking about how the only reason people go to college is becasue of a job..."So what degree am I aiming for? What job do I want to have?"

This guy has a PhD.

I get the reason for the talk but the talk freaked me out. I just wanted to focus on getting through one English class with a safe teacher I already know. The only thing I was previously worried about was not understanding something in a lecture or getting a B on a paper. Now, my husband has me worried about things that are 5 years from now. I thought my plan was good. Baby steps, one thing at a time. Test the waters and if my good health continues and I feel ready then I think more long term but I was just trying to see if going back to college was even possible. Like I said, I had given college up as one of those things that wasn't possible for me to do.

I was excited and happy and now I have no idea if I want to go anymore.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I just registered for the classes. They don't need to be paid for until the 12th so I can drop them anytime until then, by myself on the school website in 2 seconds, no harm done.

So I am still thinking about it, more towards yes but at least if I do go, the class times and teacher I want is held for me. Those times are perfect and fit in my schedule. So I didn't want to wait, decide to go and then find out the class is full anyway.

I told husband that if I am trying school again then I must have a cute school bag. :rolleyes: :x3::whistling:

I also (finally!) emailed the teacher. I asked her about another class she is teaching. It's a Pop English class. It's only on Tuesdays for 50 minutes, 45 minutes after my regular class, given by the same teacher. It's only worth 1 credit but I thought it sounded like fun. So I emailed her asking for more information becasue the school website didn't say what the class was about.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Oh, I just found a History class that would work into my schedule. I LOVE history.

Getting to excited. Thinking about taking on to much. Would really love to take the class though. :(

Not sure. :banghead:

 

[Candleflames]

I'm in a bit of a mood today so take this for what it is. Tell hubbie you want to get a Phd in Theology. It'll do nothing for you career wise, you just want one cause it would be interesting. ;)

Ok honesty face is on now. Taking a history class would be fun. You can enroll into a dozen classes right now if you want and take some time to contemplate. Just pare your schedule down to your original limit of two before the classes start or you have to pay. Keeping your load manageable will keep you excited in the long run. There will always be other interesting classes next quarter.