Relationship This Is The First Time He Made Me Cry

[journey31]

We broke up before and it lasted a week. His friends threw him a going away party yesterday. He posted on Facebook "having fun but missing one from the equation".

He could have been talking about anyone, but hoping he was talking about me. It could've been a deployed, or KIA friend. But timing could also be me. Guess I'm holding out that he realized he made a mistake.

 

[journey31]

He keeps calling. Not repeatedly, but calls me randomly, just to talk. It's making it so hard, but I can't not talk to him. I want him in my life.

He said he started to feel like he was just my rock to cling to, and an escape from my crazy family. He said he will still be my rock, but to "get my shit together". I didn't know any of my issues were affecting him that way. My family is very unsupportive, I'm having difficulty finding a job after finishing school. I don't ask him for anything, but he hates my family because they're hateful people. I had no idea it was bothering him.

 

[Kkdawn]

Journey the first thing I will say is that you need to put your self and your happiness first. Take care of yourself. It sounds to me like you sent a text and expected him to respond a certain way and he didnt. We can't expect people to respond the way we want them to.

Sending a "I miss you" text shouldn't require a response. And when he says things that are hurtful then call him out about it. He will stop because he knows they hurt you or he's just a jerk if he doesn't. When my bf was deployed he said all the right things. And there were times during a few of the deployments where I felt we were closer than when he returned so I do understand. Once he was stationed closer it became easier to have a real relationship.

Don't become a punching bag for him to lash out at emotionally, or even withhold emotions. You have to both communicate openly for a long distance relationship to work, especially one involving ptsd.

 

[journey31]

Well he broke up with me. He lost the emotional connection. Yet, he still calls. Not to have meaningful conversation, but just casual what are you doing, I'm doing this, I'll call you later.