To Tell Or Not To Tell...

[BlueDream]

I have a cousin that I talk to on FB. We grew up together, although she is ten years older than me. From what I can remember and more importantly from what I feel, she has always made me feel safe and loved.
I have PTSD because I was sexually assaulted by her brother and another cousin ect. I do not know for sure but, I think she had the same things happen to her. I think her step father molested her and her brother.
I to tell her what happened to me but I do not want to drag any old skeletons out of her closets.

What do y'all think

 

[ground crew]

I am not saying not to and it may be part of your healing later, but maybe you should fix what you can, and the only thing you can fix now is you. People have to be ready to face their demons. They may not be ready now.

 

[KwanYingirl]

@BlueDream I can only share my experience. I know my sisters were ado abused sexually by my step grandfather as was I, but they won't talk to me about it and have formed a barrier around me. I lost them. It's because they are in denial and addicted and I am not. My whole family deserted me. I just don't know what to advise. Does she know your story? It sounds like she is a great support person in your life and maybe she can handle you asking . My family has never been supportive so it wasn't a big surprise to me that they abandoned me.

With my mother I just told her and all she said was "oh yeah I know he was a pervert" that's it. My sisters just ignored my revelation.

 

[BlueDream]

Thank you both!!
I think I will hold off for now. Things are pretty fresh & messy right now, I know i could not take a negative response from her.