Trauma therapy and everything else

[Punky143]

Especially with DID. The parts don't just go away and life goes on. I see my T 2x a week for 45 min. She gets to go on with her life. Many times after session, my parts need clarification so I'll call or email asking to talk. But basically, I'm on my own. Its 50/50 if she calls back. And my angry parts are so beyond frustrated because my T said the little parts could come for a visit yesterday but I guess we ran out of time. Try telling a 4 yr old they can visit and they get excited only to cancel. Left the rest of us pissed wanting retaliation. How do others go through life AND deal with this ?

 

[Suzetig]

T said the little parts could come for a visit yesterday but I guess we ran out of time.

How would she signal to those parts that now was visiting time? There’s some good resources in IFST that involves getting all parts to agree on X, so instead of getting pissed off your other parts could help communicate with your T.

 

[Ronin]

Self care, self care, and meeting the needs you cannot with other people on your own.

Also redefining what is, and what is not, a big deal to who.
In a way you are lucky you even have a D.I.D. informed therapist, and one that is not pissing off most of you, just some and contextually. Resources in that regard are so hard to come by, I learned to appreciate finding any at all.

 

[Angelwings]

I do not know what to do in your situation because I do not have DID. You can try to explain to the four year old before making plans that it may or may not happen but you're going to hope that it does. If it doesn't happen you can offer the four year old an alternative fun thing to do?

 

[Punky143]

It really hurts their feelings though...

 

[Sideways]

In the same position? (And this is me and my T, so it may be different for you) That would be as much on me as my T. Me and my T both know we have 45 minutes. We are both equally able to watch the time, and we are both equally able to say, “There’s something else we need to get to today before time runs out”.

Perhaps at your next appointment, make a point to bring your littles out first. If they need time with your T, make that happen. You know better than your T what is, or isn’t urgent to discuss at any given appointment, and you are totally allowed to take charge of what gets discussed.

 

[whiteraven]

Especially with DID. The parts don't just go away and life goes on. I see my T 2x a week for 45 min. S...

I could have written this myself. I'm envious that you see your T twice a week - I/We go once a week and if my insiders go, I often miss the whole thing. And my T is out of town 3 of the 5 days, catching up with family on the weekends, so if I email (which he encourages), he often doesn't respond.

I'm barely managing during the week. *shrug*