Trusting Therapist

[Rumors]

Tbankrupt,
How did you spill all? Did you just walk in and go "eff it" and jump right in? I don't know if I can do that. Did you cry? Did you get mad? Were you emotional or just a matter of fact?

I am so disconnected to being emotional I am not sure I know how to be. But then again, I am petrified I will become emotional and I don't know how to deal with that either.

 

[Abstract]

I was able to do that after 8 years wasted with talk therapy and hospitalization's. I was then given the proper diagnosis

Parts of this gel with me. And I have realised that I need to speak. The only trouble is that I don't seem to have a mid point. It is either a logical composed front or dissociated disintegrated muteness. The later after deciding I need to speak about something other than the weather. Good for you that you took that step! :tup:

I've found that a therapist can think I don't need a lot of reassurance because I can give the impression of being quite composed

Like everyone else I relate to this. I also read somewhere that therapists automatically respond more emphathically to those that are very emotional and are more cognitive with those of us who are not all out there emotionally speaking. Whereas encouraging us to be the opposite is probably what is more helpful. Or at least encouragement to take steps in the opposite direction.

 

[therapybankrupt]

Do you mean on this thread?

Thanks Hashi for your reply I guess I am trying to fit in I get tons of likes but very few comments on what I say. I keep it short. Maybe what I say is not that interesting. Or maybe its more my symptoms are acting up again! Thanks for your interest!

TB

 

[therapybankrupt]

Parts of this gel with me. And I have realised that I need to speak.

Hi Abstract

Thanks for responding! I understand the issues with the difficulty in speaking and I wish you a big burst of courage and strength to get it all out in your time! As I posted this did not happen with me right away either! My point simply was that it helps in all aspects of your recovery. Encourage your inner child to be on board? That might help with minimizing the suffering? Believe me I needed there permission to proceed! They protect me and boxed my trauma for nearly 50 years. Sounds crazy but it helped me! Peace


TB

 

[therapybankrupt]

Tbankrupt,
How did you spill all? Did you just walk in and go "eff it" and jump right in? I don't know if I can do that. Did you cry? Did you get mad? Were you emotional or just a matter of fact?.

Hi Rumors

Thanks for your reply. Actually yes I did just say " eff it" or something like that! It was as I said do or die! I guess given those thoughts I gained the courage to stay and tell all! It was an emotional cry fest! I was like a baby. Did I get mad? No! Just learning how to tap into those emotions now. I know I felt a lot of shame but at the same time a whole lot of relief! My T at the time in partial hospitalization told me I had been misdiagnosed all these years. There was hope with EMDR! He was so understanding!

I grabbed the information and found a T with training and started my journey! Has it been easy? No, but I am worth it! Did I just say that?

I am so disconnected to being emotional I am not sure I know how to be. But then again, I am petrified I will become emotional and I don't know how to deal with that either.

This is part of the disorder. From all the horrid trauma inside! I did and still during the process disconnect but my T has taught me how to ground and helps me. If you have a T that is trained in your diagnosis and you sort of trust them they should be able to help you through it! Caution. I had many tools from years of therapy and DBT training that helps during the process. It is my opinion the only way to get to the other side. Only when you are ready and have the tools to go for it! I want to share the hope you can let go and it helps! Thats all.

TB

 

[therapybankrupt]

Like everyone else I relate to this. I also read somewhere that therapists automatically respond more emphathically to those that are very emotional and are more cognitive with those of us who are not all out there emotionally speaking. Whereas encouraging us to be the opposite is probably what is more helpful. Or at least encouragement to take steps in the opposite direction.

Abstract

I really like reading your writtings on the forum!

Yes you are so right! Just be yourself! It is your truth who you are! Where you came from and more! If only in the therapist office so you can get the help you need. Little by little inch by inch. Test it out and see how it feels. I know this is difficult cause I have had so many faces to please others I hardly know myself. I want to be me and know me if this is possible? I have never lost a t by showing the real me.

If its all right :hug:

TB

 

[Hashi]

If you have a T that is trained in your diagnosis and you sort of trust them they should be able to help you through it! Caution. I had many tools from years of therapy and DBT training that helps during the process....Only when you are ready and have the tools to go for it!

I agree. It's an important reason for talking about why you don't want to talk. It gives you and your T an opportunity to work on these sorts of tools first. It's also a useful way to spend session time and get used to each other, until you're ready to start talking about specific trauma issues.

I think the aim is to allow emotions while still containing them - otherwise it can be overwhelming.

I'm all for DBT skills. I haven't had access to DBT training, but I've worked on the skills from a workbook/the internet, and talked about them with my T. They help a lot.

(therapybankrupt, I'd have quoted this anyway, not because of what you said! I think most of us often post and get no particular response in a thread, but maybe you're feeling more sensitive to that at the moment? Swings and roundabouts... Good wishes to you.)