Trying To Understand Ptsd...

[Lovinusa]

I've been dating a Marine for 5 months, which has been challenging. He just left to prepare for his 4th deployment, he wasn't expecting to be deployed again!

It's been just as amazing as it has been challenging. He says he loves me, I definitely love him. However, once he learned he was deploying , he began to push me away, then decided once he left our relationship would end. (He doesnt want to have anyone to worry about) We were both very busy but, we spent all of our free time together until the week before he left. He didn't want to see me.

He shows sooo many signs of PTSD, I know he is aware of whats going on. He says 'It Is What It Is' and how he has got to do things. I'm not sure IF it's PTSD or if he's just mean.

He's been gone for 2 weeks. I miss him terribly and trying to understand. :(

<Edited by Amethist>

 

[Anna]

Welcome to the forum :) There is a very good supporters section on the forum.

 

[amethist]

Hi shari

Welcome to the forum.

As Anna said, we have a wonderful supporters section, where you will find other's with boyfriend and spouses in the military. They will understand how all this is effecting you, and your relationship.

Take care.

Amethist

 

[wife of]

Distancing.....The good old forces training kicking in at its best.

Old hands pass down the fallacy that you cut off from your loved ones for a few weeks before deployment to enable yourself to concentrate on you and the man to your left and the man to your right as these are your family while on deployment and these are the things you need to keep you alive....

Thinking of Mom your dog or your pretty little miss is only a distraction that will put the lives of the men next to you in danger....

They are taught this even before ptsd kicks in....

So do not take it personal!

I know it is hard not to, Sue.

 

[Lovinusa]

Sue,

Thank you very much. That makes so much sense!
:)

 

[Saphy]

He says 'It Is What It Is' and how he has got to do things. I'm not sure IF it's PTSD or if he's just mean.

He's been gone for 2 weeks. I miss him terribly and trying to understand. :(

It's more difficult to speak about this emotional pain with people we love. Keep this in mind. He most likely wants to stand strong for you. Just keep letting him know you miss him and one day, he'll open up to you for sure. He isn't mean, he's just trying to protect you and the man who loves you (;) him, of course). He most likely doesn't want any of those horrible things that ruined him to ruin you as well. Sometimes hearing traumatizing things can be really destructive to one's spirit. But let him know that you'll always support and love him regardless of how weak or numb he may feel deep inside.

If someone said this to me... I would definitely think a bit about letting them know more about me. Sometimes a PTSD victim just needs to be reassured before they talk about how they feel. Good luck! You're extremely strong!! :)

 

[pi314159]

Welcome to the forum.

It's so wonderful to see you here getting support and understanding.

I hope you get as much out of this forum as I have.

 

[Saphy]

Thank you. (: I have learned so much even though I'm a new member. Greatly appreciate your support!