Thank you all for your kind comments and advice, here’s me being naive thinking a few emdr sessions will sort me out, sounds far from it, in day to day life I feel in control but I’m always dragged to wanting something or wanting more, I’ve always played sports from childhood followed by drink and once pushed to a point of to much then another person comes out where destruction can happen…. From my counselling 18months ago I was finding ways and spotting the triggers etc and felt in control, but obviously started to slip without realising. So here I am back to the start again.