Understanding Ptsd - By Anthony Parsons

[Girl3]

Thank you Anthony. My entire life has been spent trying to validate my worthiness to live as I am sure many members of the forum have. Getting straight A's so our parents will love us is a common theme.

The normal people (the ones we judge to be normal) don't spend a moment's notice on trying to configure themselves to appear worthy of living.

 

[Panama Pete]

Man, the download gave me a virus!!!! Just kidding. In reality, I found it quite informative, especially about how us Military types are trained. You hit it spot on in the department.

 

[Eleanor]

Getting straight A's so our parents will love us is a common theme.

The normal people (the ones we judge to be normal) don't spend a moment's notice on trying to configure themselves to appear worthy of living.

((((((Girl3)))))) - I wish you were right about that! This is something you DO share with "normal" people tho - if I go in that category anyhow:whistling: (I'm the one without the PTSD in our house, does that make me count as "normal"? Funnily enough, I've never felt like THAT is a group I belong to:cool:. ) I spent my young life trying to be "good enough." And not just for my parents, for teachers, other kids. I always felt "wrong" awkward, uncomfortable. Maybe the difference is in the intensity of the feeling of unworthiness... I just felt generally bad - not necessarily that I shouldn't be alive but that I probably shouldn't be here.

I think it was in this post that Anthony talked about flight/fight/freeze response - because my H and I realized today that when I "hide" at home it is often an anxiety response, that formerly (before we started working on his PTSD) might well have turned into a "fight" response. The results of that were Not Good. So helpful all the way around...

 

[sherri ward]

The idea of this document is to help those surrounding PTSD; it’s based on theory I have learned and the experience I gained whilst walking my path to recovery.

Download the attached PDF document for a no nonsense outline of what you are dealing with as a sufferer and carer.

Fully Revised as at: 18 Nov 2011

Thank you Anthony! This is most informative! I am going to read it with my husband who is a sufferer.

 

[ericaboo]

Thank you

 

[mamachick]

Great work Anthony. I dont know how many times I have read, each time getting a bit more out of it. This is the easiest no nonsense explaination I have ever read. Thanks

 

[Whitneys story]

Is there a way to get this in Word form? My computer is having issues with the pdf format. I'll get it figured out eventually, but I'd like to have the article sooner if possible. Thanks

Do you have adobe reader I believe it is a free download which should allow one to save and read the article. Adobe.Com Hope that helps! Whitney

 

[evergreen]

This is an amazing document. I found it when I was looking for just the 'cup' post to show my husband. Thank you for putting this together--you did a great job. I would love to get my mom to read it. Maybe she will stop getting mad at me when I have to decline her requests to hang out.

 

[Beverly G.]

Thank you for a little light at the end of the tunnel. Now if I could get my husband to read it so he would understand me a little better.

 

[renaissance0684]

As my therapist told me unlike depression, my PTSd will not come back as intense as it was before therapy as I have had the chance to de-intensefy my PTSD situation. I am in a ok place at mo, good and bad rather than just bad!! Fantastic analogy with the cups every well laid out, a fantastic tool to those who are new (whether suffers or supporters) to PTSD!! :-) X

 

[Momof3]

I cant download either, looks like working then unsuccesful. Can it be emailed?

 

[Whitneys story]

I cant download either, looks like working then unsuccesful. Can it be emailed?

It must be something with your browser settings or security program. I just downloaded and it works fine. I would be happy to email it to you if someone lets me know it is ok to transfer in this format. You would then need to send me a pm with your email address. It is worth the little effort it will take to do this! Hugs Whitney