Understanding Ptsd - By Anthony Parsons

[hopeforhealing]

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!! I am beyond grateful... not sure about hopeful yet... but will keep reading and trying to learn. Just a bit of an understanding goes so far in the ability to accept certain behaviors. Like sleeping a lot. Now I can look at it like he is letting his cup empty. I still don't understand the lack of affection and intimacy if that is a "good stress", but that is ok. I don't have to understand that today. I just have to begin to believe it is not just me...

 

[Tina Marie White]

I LOVE THIS GROUP!

 

[Tina Marie White]

:(Even though my life has not been good to me in the past, but what makes the difference is what I do with my life that will make me happy. Having a best friend like Sheila, makes a big difference in my life, and when God blessed me with a wonderful dog like Harmony, and the landlord allowed me to keep her daughter Rosalie. Sometimes I find myself being sad..but I do not know why!:unsure:

 

[Moonkindredlass]

The idea of this document is to help those surrounding PTSD; it’s based on theory I have learned and the experience I gained whilst walking my path to recovery.

Download the attached PDF document for a no nonsense outline of what you are dealing with as a sufferer and carer.

Fully Revised as at: 18 Nov 2011

Thank you for posting this, I think it will help my fiance understand better.

 

[Tanishq]

Anthony, I have downloaded your copy. I will share my thoughts when I am done understanding it. Thank you for putting here. :)

 

[Marine/w/PTSD]

I found your pdf, to be useful information, and i feel more educated as a result but I feel like it's only the tip of an iceberg

 

[anthony]

It is only the tip, you're absolutely correct.

 

[EmFelis]

Wow. That is the best description of why I cannot handle stress I have seen yet. Thank you.

 

[Kas_Can_Fly]

"This is why just getting out of bed is too much stress for them and spouses, doctors and therapists believe it comes from depression, where in fact it is more the body instinctively taking care of itself and the brain says, “stay in bed, stress cup is full already.” It only gets worse!"

Oh wow! You explained it!

 

[Kas_Can_Fly]

I agree and don't agree with this all at the same time, but mostly it terrifies me and makes me not want to share the document

"They go to sleep with them, they have nightmares from them, they wake up in the morning with them and even sometimes more trauma caused by PTSD creating memories for them. Yes, you read that correctly. PTSD creates new traumatic events that never even happened for the sufferer, so not only do they have to work out what is real, they often must work through what is not."

See I know what I know is real, and what sometimes feels real but isn't. But I don't want to have anyone tell me that even only maybe something I know is real isn't. When I first came out with the basic'est memories, I was believed skeptically or flat out rejected because no one wanted what I wanted to be true.

As of August last year, I started having more flashbacks of things I didn't remember, but I knew to be true, not only because of the flashbacks and their realness but because suddenly I was surprised that I'd been able to hide that from myself, I know 100% they're real, they're as real as I am. But I keep saying to myself, no your crazy, you've made it all up, you're looking for attention, you're just doing this to hurt you etc, etc. I know I'm not, but I still partially believe it.

I've told my Mum about the stuff I've been going through now and she say's now she believes me totally and she's so sorry she waivered in her beliefs (she never said she didn't believe me before, but I thought she didn't because of a lot of things and was correct). If I show her this it would help her so much but that line basically gives her the right to not believe me? Also what if I am lying, I mean I know I'm not, but what if I'm psychotic and a horrible person and I'm just trying to cause trouble, which I know I'm not, but what if I am?

Edited to add: I also feel that if I don't show her this, then I'm a bad person because I'm hiding the truth from her, which I don't want to do, but I'm worried. There's so much good information in here but I don't want her to doubt me, I've had too many people doubt me to lose her, she's the only one who still stands and fights for me except my sisters but they're too young and also damaged by this.

 

[Tanishq]

Kas_Can_Fly, I believe in what you are saying. You are fine and you are struggling from within. Lots of people don't believe in other. It is because they have not gone within themselves and this is why they don't understand/can't imagine what can be for other. Best thing would be to just ignore them. Be yourself and you will find help.

 

[Kas_Can_Fly]

Thank you, my Mum does too, but I'm scared she'll change her mind or start doubting me if she reads that it is common with PTSD as she tries to understand but some times takes things too literally. Actually I don't know if she does, but I do and I'm scared she will too. Is this just my own fears that I'm making things up, despite knowing I'm not? Probably. Ok, thanks Jaret. :)