Other Unsafe people

[KA60]

Would appreciate any comments on something I have seen in myself. I was educated into traits of safe and unsafe people as part of my domestic violence treatment trauma recovery. I have tried to interact be kind to people that was a mistake. Yesterday a former resident of our rv park drove here and was assaulted by another resident in our rv park. I was not here. My husband was and intervened. The assault victim was a woman with her own history of trauma domestic violence. I think the assault was because of repetition compulsion. If a trauma survivor keeps engaging in behaviors thoughts etc that are harmful with no insight the behaviors continue to the point of a crisis. I tried to be kind to this woman . And frankly other people when my concept of zero tolerance should have kicked in
.I did this myself due to stress..My question is.... is anyone really safe anymore due to the stress from life? It is so bad. Political economic financial etc?.since I got ahold of my part in this I changed some things about me. More quiet time. Sit outside. Reading books magazines. Sound bath music meditations etc..With this woman I have zero tolerance. I will not let her be around me
No contact. She wanted me last week to take her to pick up groceries. I said no

 

[Sideways]

My question is.... is anyone really safe anymore due to the stress from life?

Yes. You are struggling with managing your own stress levels (probably because of your ptsd!). For most folks, stress levels ebbing and flowing is a normal part of life.

She wanted me last week to take her to pick up groceries. I said no

That was a great response:)

 

[KA60]

Thank you all. I am managing my own stress.

 

[KA60]

Here is an update. The sister of the woman who lived in our rv park that was assaulted - she lives in our rv park too with her fiance. The man who assaulted her sister lives in anawayb rv that fit for human to live in. He lives in dire poverty has a dog who is neglected abused. Now the sister and her fiance want to clean up this man's rv. How does this sick toxic codependency keep going on? These four people cannot be around me. The sister and her fiance just got engaged. I asked to see her ring told them I was very happy for them. If anyone needs a second chance they do. But they are not going to get it with this type of behavior. What the h...l.is still going on with me? I know. Stress. We got a new used car. Sold our old one. We have done some work on our rv. New flooring new toilet..I have been catching up on some health care. Dexa scan. Eye exam. Someone in our small community drove their car into the dollar general. So. There is only 1 general store left. There was animosity toward this store and with so much anger and hatred in the US it could have been intentional. My father lives 1900 miles away is 89 health declining. My brother is there but with my father and his daughter who had her first child via c section a month ago with complications my brother is pushed to or beyond his limit
. She is not married the father is absent so my brother is the father figure to his grandson and the sole means of financial support to his daughter grandson.My father can no longer live in his apt with out hired home care. He is confused forgetful holds my decreased mother's picture in his lap and talks to it like she is still with him..yes. I am avretired former health care professional..All this sh..t is terrible .red flags.

 

[KA60]

Also. I live in NM
Hanta virus here in 4 corners region 1993. These people good little people pleaser are going to clean up this man's rv. He has cognitive issues from a TBI substance abuse etc. I use a neilmed sinus rinse several times daily so I am constantly reducing my respiratory viral bacterial load. But please. What has happened to people saying no? To themselves. To others? What about STOP PAUSE? What about an app on our phones called I can say no? It is on mine. About.3 months. It works.