Updating old therapist. have you done it?

[UnicornSightings]

My old t said she has had other clients email her updates on how they’ve been. I’m feeling like I want to do that. It’s been 2 months and I’ve made the HUGE decision to go back to school. That’s the kinda thing I would tell her and she would be so happy for me!!! My family is sucking at being supportive. I’m doing great at being proud of myself and confident but I feel the desire to reach out. Not continuously, just a one time thing until something else happens that’s exciting in my future, you know? Do you guys know if this is pretty common? I mean, I’m working on deciding things for myself and feeling sure about it so I’m gonna just go ahead and write her but I’m still curious if others have done it. I guess it would help me feel more comfortable.

 

[Deleted member 40995]

I haven’t but I wish I could that sounds like a nice idea :) I loved seeing my old t and I know she’d be happy with some of the big steps I’ve taken :) so if I had the chance, I’d do it if it was an option :)

 

[UnicornSightings]

Why can’t you?

 

[Deleted member 40995]

Why can’t you?

She never offered, then recently retired and moved out of state I wouldn’t know how to contact her or if she’d be interested in hearing from me now, it’s been about a year

 

[UnicornSightings]

If I were a therapist I think that’d be one of the hardest parts, you know? Not knowing what happened to the people you spent so much time listening to. Cause they think about us, I’m sure. My t has said that. So I think they’d want to know cause geez, that’s kind of like a pat on the back to them, too, you know? I mean it’s us doing the work but we had their support to get to that point.

And it’s not like they can reach out to us.... that would totally cross a boundary.

 

[Deleted member 40995]

If I were a therapist I think that’d be one of the hardest parts, you know? Not knowing wha...

I think I’d wonder about my patients years after. But that’s just me, things don’t leave my mind :p (except for bits of the trauma I can’t seem to remember ;) ) but yes, I’d think that they would be curious about their patients lives after therapy

 

[UnicornSightings]

Well hell, their job is to remember all kinds of details! I bet they remember random things down the road still!

Cool, well I will update if she replies. I kinda feel like I should wait longer but that’s just my insecurity. It’s been a bit over 7 weeks (who’s counting lol!!!) so a short email certainly won’t ruffle her feathers.

 

[Deleted member 40995]

Cool, well I will update if she replies. I kinda feel like I should wait longer but that’s j...

Keep us updated I’d love to hear how it goes :)

 

[Sideways]

I did with one T. I sent him an email updating him on things to let him know that things where going well. I knew that he was genuinely concerned about me as a person, not just a patient. And I also felt that he’d gone over and above to try and help me in the years that I’d seen him.

He was very grateful for the update. He appreciated me letting him know that things were working out okay for me and that I was going to do alright.

I didn’t contact him again after that. But it’s something that I’m glad I did. Our T’s are human, and some of them put a huge personal investment into trying to help us. So I don’t see anything wrong with letting them know that things are going well for you - it’s a good news story, so I think if you want to share it you should go right ahead:)

 

[UnicornSightings]

I did with one T. I sent him an email updating him on things to let him know that things where...

Thank you for sharing. I’m so happy it was such a positive experience for you!

 

[EveHarrington]

I hope it goes well!

 

[anonymous]

My old T deserves no credit whatsoever for any progress I have made, therefore, I have no desire to update her. If I did anything I would go back and tell her that she needs psychiatric help herself, because she f*cked with my mind almost as bad as the perpetrator who assaulted me.