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[Ebe]

I think I'm turning into him.

Sleep disturbance. Check
Anxiety. Check
Depression. Check
Heart palpitations. Check
Anger. Check
Hair loss. Check
Avoidance. Check
Isolation. Check


I may have to rethink this relationship.

 

[Vifaru]

Compassion fatigue and caregiver burnout are real things. So isn't secondary traumatic stress.

 

[Ofibub]

DUDE YES (except the hair loss and heart palpitations). I have literally had "I'm turning into him" rattling around in my brain for a week now. I hear you loud and clear.

 

[Sijura]

How long into this relationship are you?

 

[Acod]

A similar thing has happened to me. I am starting to feel mega stressed by his triggers. Have you talked with him about it?

 

[Efe]

It sounds very difficult for you, I hope you can gain some rest. :hug:

I would recommend thinking about / talking about boundaries. This may mean expectations, what to do and what not to...so on. My partner and I had similar issues but it really helped to discuss things.

Good luck with it all. :)

 

[Ebe]

We've been together almost 5 years.
I plan on talking with him over the weekend. I know he's having a hard time due to an anniversary date and the death of his step mother but I don't deserve the verbal abuse. It's getting out of control. ANYTHING I say or do sets him off lately. So I don't say or do anything. This is no way to live. Sh*t has to change!!! Obviously therapy isn't working or he isn't using the tools they taught him.

The things he says are so... Vicious! I just keep playing his words in my head and I can't forget them. He makes me so mad!!!

 

[Cemuku]

Can you set boundaries?

Bad behavior?

Walk away without another word.

Bad behavior continues?

You extricate yourself from his life for longer periods of time.

He still doesn't get the message?

It's break-up time.

 

[Kidoci]

Hair loss? Heart palpitations? Could there possibly be another reason you both share for this like your diet? My guy used to have hair loss and heart racing. Used to think it was they PTSD but it was his thyroid being not okay.

 

[Sacuh]

The things he says are so... Vicious! I just keep playing his words in my head and I can't forget them.

I relate to this 100%. It has gotten easier to walk away/remove myself over time. He can't hurt my feelings if I'm not listening :)

 

[Ebe]

When did I go from being a girlfriend to being a "supporter"? I want to be a girlfriend again! :/

 

[Ebe]

Hair loss? Heart palpitations? Could there possibly be another reason you both share for this like your diet? My guy us...

Yeah, it could be hormonal but the palpitations happen when I hear his car pull up or when the first words out of his mouth in the morning are " fu*k this shit, I hate my fu*king life"!

I have a physical set up for the end of the month.