Virginia Tech - How Do Others Feel?

[Grama-Herc]

As more is being discovered about this assassin at VT., some one could have intervened long ago and this would have never happened. While a lot of people in this forum do not believe in meds, just imagine what giving this guy meds to control his delussions would have done. This just gets sadder by the day. I have put my family on notice to keep an eye on MY actions and for God sakes put me away before I ever get to a point of harming others

 

[Deleted member 93]

Monarch, I see your point. But she was asking how it effected us. It really just did not phase me. May be under different circumstances but it was kids killed which is something I hear as a change the channel daily for me. So for how it effected me, I am numbed out about it. How I am personally wired at this point. Hearing young adults dying is something I see and hear daily while trying to avoid it. Sure, I know it is sad, it just does not move me. Not trying to be cold hearted...

 

[mouse]

Veiled, I dont think yiu are harsh you make a good point that unfortunatly you have gotten due to circumstances numb of the death and dying of young people its not cold hearted its fac due to lifes circumstances I believe

 

[becvan]

Veiled you are not alone. I was afraid to say that I feel nothing about it. I wrote about it in my diary so no one could see it. I seen so much death when I was a teen, faced so many situations where I should have died or was threatened or lived simply by luck, that I don't feel death anymore. I just don't care. I'm not even really afraid of dying, I'm afraid of the pain in reality.

I actually get annoyed with people greiving over death. Anthony explained to me it's a sign that I'm not healed and I have a long way to go because I'm not only numb to it, but get pissy about it to boot. He's right.

At least it doesn't piss you off! LOL.

bec

 

[Linda]

Bec, I can relate.
I am not afraid to die, too, just because we all will die eventually.
Wha I am afraid of is pain and helplessness, as when you have debilitating disease. I want to die painlessly.
When worked in animal hospital, there were some patients we had to put to sleep right on the operating table after understanding that they can not be cured. I am realy envious to them. I am not suicidal, but will kill myself when face terminal condition which will cause me pain or lose of my mind.
And it also annoys me when people are getting too frustrating with someone dying. Come on, death is a part of life and is natural.
It just pisses me off that I can do nothing to protect myself and others.

 

[Marilyn_S]

Hello Herc,

I know what you mean about being triggered by stuff on the news like that masacre. I have such a hard time watching the new anymore. It seems like all they want to do is sensationalize the pain and anguish of humanity, like some great sheakspearian arena of drama. But someone the other day gave me a little bit of advise that really helped me and I'd like to share it with you. Hope ya don't mind Marlene. I was all down on America because of all the social ills and economic disparity. Marlene reminded me that since the dawn of civilization there has been problems and if we choose to focus on all the problems then a negative world is what we will see. But if we go about our day looking for good in others we will feel better about our world. (i think i paraphrased that corectly, hopefully) but anyway, I said all that to say; I hope you can find peace over the next few days. Perhaps by looking for all the support others are giving to one another regarding the tragedy, and how that when a tragedy occurs it seems to bring out the best in people in that they cease with the selfish and begin to concentrate instead on how to help and support one another. Hope that makes sense and hope it helps.

 

[batgirl]

sorry i am unwell...

 

[Jim]

Sincerest apologies for my niece. She is NOT permitted on the computer at this time. Fortunately I caught her in the act of writing. I do hope no one saw what she originally wrote, as it was extremely hateful. She is having troubles dealing with the death of my son, as we all are, but that is no excuse. Again, my apologies. It will NOT happen again... Jim.

 

[becvan]

Omg, Jim my deepest condolences. I had no idea about your son.

I personally did not see what she wrote and under the circumstances, I can see why this thread would greatly upset her. I see no harm done here.

I wish you all the best.

bec

 

[becvan]

I actually get annoyed with people grieving over death.
bec

I decided I should clarify this. I get pissy about people that grieve over deaths of others that they do not know. I don't get grieving for someone you have no relationship with. Hope that makes that more clear.. sorta.. It doesn't really make sense to me half the time.

bec

 

[hodge]

I don't know that I'm actually grieving these victims, since I didn't know them. But it just upsets me when I hear about people getting killed. Well, plus, I was really worried about my work associate (who's okay). I've been around too much violence, too, but I guess I went in the opposite direction; instead of getting desensitized, I got highly sensitized. It seems like there's always been something in me that feels connected to other living beings, from people to plants. I feel hurt when I see others get hurt, which is why I've had to learn to really ration myself on news, etc., when stuff like this is getting endless media attention. At the risk of sounding like a loon, I confess that I even have a hard time killing insects, even the really annoying or dangerous ones! If possible, I'll get my husband to take them outside when I notice one in the house.

 

[Deleted member 93]

Causing death, even a bug is different, except wasp on the porch. That is causing. To take life God put here is hard. My line is drawn at my children's; I will do it then and my husband's. But to hear of others' I cannot feel it on a deep level. There is so much daily. But close to home that is another story; had it been my family I would be a wreck.

As far as the news I stopped watching it long ago as I was emotionally wrapped up in every story. (I get rare updates from Anthony of what is happening in my own government and am shocked and horrified) I cannot be like that and mentally survive. Not yet, I still have a long road as once all it did was make me paranoid of my neighbor.