Virtual online gathering for christmas day here....

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I am so glad that you figured it out on your own. You see I am allowed to text my oldest but not my younge...

Yes, consistent love and support means so much- that was a big difference between mom and grandma. Mom would be so sweet when she got scared; when mom got scared that I was going to the police she came in and talked all nice to me, said she’d take me shopping, said I should go have a nice warm shower and just think about it. Then, she’d turn around and be abusive. Grandma wasn’t abusive she had bad days but loved me regardless mom loved me when it was convenient. Or maybe mom never loved me at all I don’t know

 

[Changing4Best]

I am so glad that you figured it out on your own. You see I am allowed to text my oldest but not my younger... I am hoping that my texts are giving her some love and hope to just hang on. Thank you so much for sharing with me.

Praying it all works out for you and yours!

 

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I am so glad that you figured it out on your own. You see I am allowed to text my oldest but not my younge...

And I figured this out between 14-16 age wise so yes, she can still realize no matter what age :)

 

[Changing4Best]

Well, since my inner child hated to eat, we had a very small supper. She wanted some of that pumpkin pudding, thankfully. I put lots of eggs in it, so she ate healthy, especially since I sweetened it with stevia, no sugar.

 

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I started telling mom not to speak that way she’d get so mad but I’d defend grandma till the end.

Yes, consistent love and support means so much- that was a big difference between mom and grandma.

but loved me regardless mom loved me when it was convenient. Or maybe mom never loved me at all I don’t know

I am glad your grandma's love made such a difference in your life. I believe I was able to do that for as well. I think your grandmas love saved your heart and mind because you knew she loved you in your heart. Thank you so much. I have a lot more hope than I did earlier. It is just a matter of waiting for her to come to me and I feel so much better than I did earlier thank you for being here today. It means alot that you loved your grandma and would defend her because that took so much courage on your part.

I am also glad to know that your mom was a little bit afraid of what you say to someone else and that she got scared. It means that you had so much inner strength at that time also.:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

Praying it all works out for you and yours!

Thank you so much SheilaKathy:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

I am glad we are all here together today. It really helps so much. If I can ask another question how old is your couisin? Where does she live does she live with others? Maybe we can come up with a idea of how to help her.

 

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BRB

 

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I am glad your grandma's love made such a difference in your life. I believe I was able to do that for as...

Sure :) cousin is 18 and she lives in Southern Indiana. With her mother and sister part time and part time with her aunt and part time with her boyfriend- she still gets passed between people, no one really stepping up to help her :(

And yeah mom would get so mad. She’d start talking bad about grandma and I’d say please don’t, I don’t want to hear any of that. And she’s get mad and keep going say grandma hated me, I’d tell her it wasn’t true (this usually went down in the car while she was driving) and she’d get so mad she’d just reach over and smack my head against the dashboard and tell me to shut up but I’d say grandma loves me, and I know it. She’d be angry but I’d defend grandma no matter what. If mom started telling lies to others in front of me I’d say, that’s not true about grandma, etc. I didn’t care how mad she got I loved grandma and I’d defend her no matter what. Grandmas love made all the difference in the world :) really gave me enough self worth to say, I won’t take the abuse anymore, I can survive and have a happy life :)

 

[Changing4Best]

I don't have to go back to work until Thursday. I have no idea what to do with the rest of my week, but to do some housekeeping here. My home could use a bit of a pick-me-up. I will check in here occasionally, to see if anyone needs some support or company. I bet others might have "nothing" much to do that is important either for the next few days.

 

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Grandmas love made all the difference in the world :) really gave me enough self worth to say, I won’t take the abuse anymore, I can survive and have a happy life :)

This is so beautiful Rosie. I am so glad you had that because you needed someone on your side alone.

I think your couisin is so young still even though she is an adult. Funny how the couisin you love and my granddaughter are the same age. I will bet your love for her has made a profound difference in her life too.Is her boyfriend a good one? I sure hope so if she gets to go there.

 

[Changing4Best]

Rosie, your story is heartwarming, about how much you loved your grandma. You were so strong!

My grandma I loved very much too. My father did not really like her and bad mouthed her sometimes. I never stood up to him, but I see now that I should have defended her. She was such a wonderful woman, I so looked up to her. She was a teacher and an artist. I got my artistic talent from her, my gift, that I use now in therapy doing art therapy. It is helping me so much! I think of her a lot and I miss her so.

 

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I will check in here occasionally, to see if anyone needs some support or company.

I am sorry SheilaKathy, I am not trying to leave you out and hurt your feelings if I have. I really mean it you need to be here as much as we do.:hug::hug::hug:

 

[Changing4Best]

It is OK, we are focusing on Rosie's story right now. I am reading too.