What age did you consider yourself to be a child?

[420kitty]

Under 16 is when I would consider myself a child. I'm almost 29 and now just starting to feel somewhat adultish, lol.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I quit being a child when I was assaulted by my dad. It has taken me forever to grow up and I am still working at it, I think it is going to take me my whole life to finally grow up.

 

[GWhizz]

I quit being a child when I was assaulted by my dad. It has taken me forever to grow up and I am still wor...

Funny how we all became adults as children. But we actually were developmentally inhibited in terms of growing up. I'm only now learning that I can depend on my T (someone beyond/outside of myself). And in turn I have huge fears about developing any attachment towards her, relying on another etc. In my romantic relationship I'm pretty low maintenance. Luckily I have an awesome partner who doesn't abuse that and is emotionally there as much as I'll allow it. But for the most part I push him away when deep inside I'm crying out for nurturing.

 

[Tinyflame]

The woman-child becomes the child-woman. Seamless. "I don't know what's so different about you?.." -(?) :(

True @GWhizz .

:hug:

 

[Tinyflame]

@GWhizz I learned something 2 days ago, kids and teens ALL overestimate their abilities (apparently).

And I saw little ones yesterday- they are definitely 'different'. We were definitely not capable of being adults in all that infers, no matter how well we may have appeared to have pulled it off..

:hug::hug::hug:

 

[SpacemanSpiff]

I think my childhood physically ended after the sex abuse at the age of ten. Emotionally I'm not sure. But mentally I try to keep some of my inner child alive at 34 by playing Legos or whatever fancies me. Now at ten and onward I looked like a child but I was just an animated multi-celled structure trying to survive. As if on an autopilot of sorts.

 

[Tinyflame]

Me too @SpacemanSpiff . Where others had dreams or goals or wants or needs and pursued them, in my heart of hearts I was just trying to survive, and stay off the radar.

Sorry for what you've experienced. :( :hug: