Relationship What Are Some Of The Things You Do For You When Your Loved One Withdrawals?

[Lilmssunshine]

A way to make me feel close and connected to the one I love who has PTSD is to listen to the songs he has on YouTube. I'm subscribed to his channel. When he withdrawals I feel so close to him by listening to the lyrics of the songs he's listening to. A lot of the songs are related to us. He doesn't know I do that I don't think. I love listening to his songs til he comes back to me.

What are some things you do to feel connected when your loved one withdrawals?

 

[Ccspec]

That's awesome, I wish I had something or even new if he was coming back. First time dating someone after being divorced and he has PTSD. I thought everything was under control but about 5days ago he disappeared. Stopped texting and calling, he even blocked my number I think. One night it was "good night babe,sleep well" and nothing after that . I'm heartbroken .

 

[Lilmssunshine]

That's awesome, I wish I had something or even new if he was coming back. First time dating someone after...

Welcome to my life. I've dealt with this for three years. I hope your friend comes back like mine always does.

 

[Sighs]

I keep a copy of all the loving texts he sends me. When he's isolating I read them over and over again.

 

[Ccspec]

Yes I have some emails but he must if blocked me because my text history is gone. This is so hard to understand, but I do. I just feel like he is not coming back and everything we had although short lived never happened. Thank you for talking to me because I feel like no one understands me, and I'm so sad.

 

[Ccspec]

How long is he gone for usually?

 

[Sighs]

Mine has only been gone a few days at a time, but some supporters here have had their sufferer vanish for months on end. Sometimes they come back and sometimes they don't.

 

[Ccspec]

Ok thank you. Mine being a new relationship, he is probably gone for good. I stopped contact a few days ago but it's been a week already. I know he is ok because he is active on the online website we met at. I guess I just need to get over it and move on.

 

[Lilmssunshine]

When mine isolates he is usually gone about a week or two. Last time we stopped talking because of me and my issues. I didn't talk to him for six months. We recently started talking again. Mine is probably isolating cuz he's scared I'll stop talking to him again. I stopped talking to him when I thought I was ready to move on. But I'm not. I'm surprised he even talked to me after I was gone for six months. I have my own mental illness and winters are hard for me. Now it's sunny out and we're both in better places. I know he still loves me because the songs on his YouTube matches his words to me. If I didn't have his songs I don't know what I'd do when he isolates.

 

[Lilmssunshine]

Ok thank you. Mine being a new relationship, he is probably gone for good. I stopped contact a few days a...

That doesn't necessarily mean he's gone for good. Remember absence makes the heart grow fonder. Give him something to miss. Works for me every time lol with mine anyway

 

[Ccspec]

I'm just staying away and hoping he ends up remembering and missing all the things he would say and the time we spent together. It's great being able to talk about it. I went through a divorce 6 months ago and wasn't planning on getting serious with any one . Met him online and we just hit it off and clicked on a level that just took us both by surprise. It was intense , but never the less the PTSD was there.

 

[catlover26]

I am dating my guy who is a Vietnam vet. I think because of his age and the time that has gone by he doesn't physically disappear but mentally when I am over there I can tell his mind is elsewhere. I can talk to him and I have to repeat things because he is not comprehending what I am saying. A few weeks ago he was really depressed so we were not talking much at all. I guess it was just important for me to just be there with him even if it was watching TV.

Things have changed so much for us. We are not eating together anymore nor talking any on the phone at night like we used to. I used to try and call him but I have stopped because he doesn't answer nor ever tries to call me back. He says he just doesn't feel like talking because he is so tired. I think me not calling and not going over there as often he seems happier to see me when I am there.

He does not express his feelings towards me very much at all which is hard. But tonight I was over there and getting ready to leave earlier than usual and he said 'Why are you leaving so early"? Can't you stay or something like that. It really made me feel good. So of course I stayed longer.