There is no JUST tell him. In the thick of it, even with my unfailingly supportive husband, it is impossible to ask for anything or communicate anything. I can talk after the event, but while I'm going through it speaking is dangerous, cruel and worthy of punishment. Survival requires silence.As for hubby... He wants to take your pain away. What an awesome guy!! Just tell him what you need.
I suppose it is the same as the difference between "normal" therapy and trauma therapy. I understand that for most people it is a relief to unload it all on a T. With PTSD just naming things is risky.
I'm rather fortunate to be with a man who is naturally silent.