I was thinking reading a couple of other threads, when (I) don't understand something, I try to ask. But only if I care to know.
Personally, I am not a very good communicator, so that blame is mine. But when I think about it, no one asks (in 'real life') what I mean if they don't understand. Even if they say they don't understand (not really by their own choice but it arises).
So I guess, they don't care or don't want to know.
So I guess I just didn't understand, too slow to learn and missed the forest ('actions') for the trees.
I guess that makes me feel slow, or silly, not aware of 'the real world/ life', tired of trying, still like Helen Keller, for the most part, lol.
However, that's not surprising to me, either.
My mom said just before she died, in response to asking her "how do you know if someone genuinely cares" (it was specific as regards whom I had been dating at the time, although I meant it as regards some family members also, and in general, as I knew I would never be able to ask her opinion/ wisdom about it again), and she said "Actions. Words mean nothing. Actions mean everything".
I knew (as they were) that those were going to be some of the last words she wanted to say (she said others, also), as people often try to, the most important advice they feel they can leave with you.
That and, "Anyone can tell how you are, pick people who value it".
Sixteen years ago and I forgot them.
But they're pretty straight forward, really, kind of sums much up.