Oh, the dog here always looks worried if there's something like that from me, then he just kind of leaves.... .
Jadebear-hope it's to to say this to you. You see, I learn a lot here. I've learned things from you, like it's just plain FINE to speak, and say your dam truth with no frills, and take that dignity. Yesterday was dreadful. The ex, it transpires, has some 10 years ago taken a few low-level credit cards out in my name, which he did not pay along with the debts ordered in the divorce settlement. A scumbucket collection agency bought a list of ancient defaulters and went to work with scumbucket tactics-long story but not only did I answer the phone ( never, ever, ever do that ) but spoke my truth in a clearly er, non-pushable-around fashion. It felt wonderful. I need to phone the ex today on this and will not mince words similarly, which will also feel wonderful. That's only, ONLY been possible because I've been here. You're part of that, since you disallow your boundaries to be pushed and I watch these things, you see. So thank you. I'm making this so long because it's illustrative of the difference you must make in people's lives without knowing it- I'm just the one habitually verbal enough to feel the 'need' to express this. It's gratitude, of course.
Screaming gives me a headache, too, but think days like yesterday I'd break windows for certain, if all that could come OUT.
