I am feeling hopeful, - wow, what a word. And feeling. :) That's been a reallly long time.
And amazed. Amazed at feeling hopeful!
I don't know where to put this, but I guess I should put it somewhere.
Recalled my dad very physically ill (he seemed to have ptsd undiagnosed, btw), came home (worked away), and we all had unadalterated 'fun'- laughs, love, bar-b-q's, worked outside, went on vacation, camped and had no baths (lol- me, him and the dog, anyway), fished, ate every treat that existed, were in the sun all the time- and my dad said, "I guess this is what I needed, to be at home, my family, working outside, being in the sun.." Anyway, he got a 'remission'.
But what amazes me is- occurred to me, he didn't show any ptsd symptoms. In the whole 2 months. There was no ruminating, no anger, no insomnia, no depression. Just lots of 'living'. :)
But he (we) did visit his childhood home, his dad and brother's grave, the church where my parents were married, the mountain he used to ski on.
So maybe therein lays part of the (my) answer. :)
And also, he had said, I was exactly like his dad- was a Vet(eran) but died when my dad was 16.