I'm feeling like "whew!" made it through another one. Ended up having a great day yesterday, though by myself, I ended up sharing it with a lot of loved ones. I feel very grateful for the love and support and not at all worthy.
I am not sure I should have outed my mother so much with my brother but after several years I couldn't believe he was stilling taking on the guilt of her playing the victim and seeing me as partly to blame in what happened when back then. I finally just told him that she plays down her health issues and is more than happy to have everyone else look like the villain in order for her not to look "weak"...I don't get it but I do, it's who she is.
I'm not angry nor do I take it personally anymore that she is willing to use me in her charade but neither am I willing to be the brunt of her facade. So, as much as he was uncomfortable hearing it, I told him straight up what really went down and that if he chose to meet at the same park then she could and would be driving herself. I refused to go through that again. I could tell at first he didn't believe it and for some reason wanted to continue to believe it had been our fault she had wanted to leave so soon but after I explained (once again) that no, she had made it clear before we even went that she would want to be leaving early then he got it. I told him she was upset at me because I had told her from the start that I had not wanted her to ride with us in case I wanted to stay. Blech.... I gave in then, she didn't want to be seen being the only one leaving early. Right or wrong I told the truth. It might have been a mistake but I'm sick of of the bs.
His response was that people needed to start being more honest....holy moly! Ya think? Oh, well, hopefully because we finally discussed it at length he understands why I have been so staunch on my position with her. I hope so. I was queasy about it but I'm hopeful.
((((((((((((((((hugs to those that need them)))))))))))))))))