What Are You Feeling Today? Not Thinking, Rather Feeling! Can You Identify Yours?

[Cufflinks]

Sad, sad, sad.

 

[Springer80]

Tired but feeling good, doctors went well, turning point secured and enough time given to continue building in the right direction rather than being defaulted down the wrong one. Hurrah!!!

 

[Hashi]

I need to get back in therapy but my therapist is also the site director and always gets interrupted during our sessions or tells me her issues. i like her but the last time I had a appointment to see her she made me wait 15 minutes while she put christmas gifts away. I left because I was really in a bad place. I'm just tired of her other duties taken precedent over my mental health.

I came back because I worried that my post above about this was too abrupt. I'm sorry if it was. What I mean is:

I'm really concerned that you're considering seeing someone like this. Is there some reason to? I hope you have alternative options, but even if you don't I think you need to think very seriously about whether it's a good idea to see her again. I can't see how it can help you to see someone who isn't following the most basic standards of ethics. How can you trust or open up in that situation? She isn't a safe person to do that with, and we're too vulnerable in therapy to be seeing someone who's untrustworthy. It could be so damaging.

Her other duties aren't taking precendence over your mental health. Her ego is. There's no valid reason for interruptions. None. She could organise things so there aren't any but she's choosing not to do that. What does that say about her professionalism, or even competence to be your therapist? As for telling you her own issues... How can she be a good therapist to have such terrible boundaries and lack of respect for you?

We have to be vulnerable in therapy, but we can't afford to be vulnerable in choosing the therapist. We can't afford to go along with whoever's available simply because that's who's available. We have to take care of ourselves and make sure that who we see is a safe, reliable, ethical person who behaves appropriately. Liking them doesn't matter if those things aren't in place.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

What Hashi said is so true. I agree one hundred percent.

 

[ms spock]

I feel concerned. I got an sms about Catastrophic Fire Danger in my area last night. Three states in Australia are on their highest alert. I am in a safe place, but I do feel for everyone else in the area.

However I have to get up to Sydney today so I had better catch an early train up there today. I have to pass through some of the highly rated areas.

 

[ms spock]

I need to get back in therapy but my therapist is also the site director and always gets interrupted during our sessions or tells me her issues. i like her but the last time I had a appointment to see her she made me wait 15 minutes while she put christmas gifts away. I left because I was really in a bad place. I'm just tired of her other duties taken precedent over my mental health.

Site director or not she has to be able to manage the most basic of professional boundaries - that is of maintaining an uninterrupted safe space for your therapy to occur. An emergency one a year is one thing - but on a repeated, weekly basis - she is not good at containment for you.

She should be demonstrating professionalism by showing you how she manages her boundaries. She should not be telling her your issues - I had this with a number of therapists that I considered benign at the time. It is not appropriate. It is also not benign.

I saw people like this - and the damage it did to me over time has not been helpful. I hope you can find someone else.

I also saw some really damaging people as well - but this stuff is not good either.

 

[dms]

Hashi and Ms Spock. Thanks for the concern ands advice.. You are both correct about my therapist not respecting my time or issues. I've been canceling my appointments for this reason. I think that she feels that I'm basically doing great because, I only talk about the last 3 yrs of my life, and i seem to be a surviver. The truth is I need help! I'm unemployed and my therapy is free through a program in my City however I do have the right to request someone else and I plan too going forward.

 

[therapybankrupt]

I feel concerned. I got an sms about Catastrophic Fire Danger in my area last night. Three states in Australia are on their highest alert. I am in a safe place, but I do feel for everyone else in the area..

Spock

Please be safe!

TB

 

[Britt.f7]

Finished with my business today, reading, on the forum, on facebook, some laundry, time with boys...now what? That feeling of just wanting to sleep is there so that I don't have to deal with this, what? Emptiness?

 

[therapybankrupt]

Scared to go back to therapy tomorrow. It was so nice having the break from EMDR over the holidays!

 

[therapybankrupt]

Hashi

It is in my opinion and experience that the heads of some of these physilities are the worst! I was hesitant the first time I did not find a T was the fit! Wasted 3 years! People will respect your wishes. And they wouldn't dare treat you badly because of your decision.

Best Wishes

TB

 

[GreenFrog2]

Lonely, sad, apprehensive, worried.

But also a little positive as my positive affirmations seem to be working and my negative emotions are there but not overwhelming me.