What Is This Called?

[Sdn]

I keep having the movie image in my mind. Person talks about their past/trauma, and the therapist asks "And how did that make you feel?" The therapist is neutral, never being aggressively optimistic, pessimistic, or accusatory. (I perceive aggressive optimism as highly objectifying, and I'm over-sensitive to being spoken to like an object as it is a trigger.)

I keep getting told this is not what therapists do. I'm mentally split between believing that and not, and feel rather confused. I feel I need to talk my trauma out with someone, perhaps over and over, until I process it. I don't think I can get much farther without that. At the very least I'd expect to have well over a single appointment for them to understand what my triggers are and what I've been through. Therapists so far are very impatient and only willing to hear just enough about my past to diagnose, and I have to struggle against them to even tell a short summary of the full story. This seems very wrong to me. I feel like they are on a train, looking out the window expecting me to keep up on foot with a giant iron ball full of secret memories chained to my ankle.

Does this service exist where I can talk about whatever is hurting me, past or present, with someone's help? Does it have a specific, official name in the USA? I have limited means and am afraid of blowing through my limited opportunities and further being labeled a difficult patient. I need to understand what I'm looking for better.

 

[Meadowsweet]

If you look just above this post, there is a post by Anthony called 'what is a trauma therapist'. I think this might help. I think you're right in saying that what will help you is to talk about it over and over, and if your therapist isn't allowing you to do that, then they are probably not the right therapist.

And as a side note, I completely understand being triggered by certain tones or expressions.

 

[Sdn]

So what I am getting from this is the movie version is in fact correct, or at least more so than them being impatient/pushy? I know my current therapist is wrong for me, but I'm being told what I'm asking for cannot be done by this therapist or any other. That is what concerns and confuses me, and why I want a name if there is one for what I'm talking about. They might respond better if I throw out a technical term for it instead of trying to explain in my own way.

 

[Gamereign555]

I agree, you should seek out a trauma therapist. If you are low income then try your local human resources department, the mental health area. Sign some paperwork. Choose from a list of relevant therapists, male or female in the area. You should see a summary of the therapists experience. Choose somebody, looking for experience such as degrees, certification, grief therapy, trauma therapist, ptsd, anxiety/panic disorders, number of years in the field. I only pay $10 a visit and they have let me go way past my allowed sessions with her. Maybe it could be as easy for you to get in to see somebody.

 

[Elisacullen21]

If you look just above this post, there is a post by Anthony called 'what is a trauma therapist'. I think this might help. I think you're right in saying that what will help you is to talk about it over and over, and if your therapist isn't allowing you to do that, then they are probably not the right therapist.

And as a side note, I completely understand being triggered by certain tones or expressions.

My current therapist isn't allowing me to do that, but I feel this need. If not they let me to do it I feel bad emotionally.

 

[Sdn]

Thanks. I decided to seek another therapist. Because of habitual self-blame, general hopelessness, and fear of being hurt by another therapist it was a hard decision to make.

 

[Abrasky]

My therapist told me something that sought of makes sense to me, she said they deal with emotions. There are emotions that need releasing and that is how made progress over the years with therapy.

In my own experience, I would pick 5 psychologists that I would interview. If I felt a bit emotional after talking to the psychologist, or they said they did 'linking', I would rate them and then see the one which was at the top of the list.

I learned from my experience with therapists, that about 50% of them are not good at linking(In my experience). If they didnt' make me cry my eyes out in the first 5 appointments, I wasnt' going to make progress with them and saw a different therapists.

I've been with some therapists for 1 appointment and my current psychologist for 2 1/2 years. I also learned if I wasn't making progress not to wait it out and keep paying fees for making no progress, just pick another psychologist until you find the one to make progress with.

Hope that helps.