What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[Tinyflame]

I used to date a guy who said, "Life's a b*tch and then you marry one". Great for self-esteem. :(

I am happy to be around kinder people now.

(((((ITL))))

 

[712xx]

Maybe if you can just 'act as if...' (insert whatever you like in there) and eventually it will be true.

To me, this is like saying I was 'acting as if I were deserving of being mistreated' so it became true because I believed it more and more because that is how people treated me. It was all my fault because I just believed it -- silly me.:unsure: If only I had known I had that much brain power!

 

[Chincho]

"You will never get better, you are not ill, you're plain mean".

I was going through the worst days of flashbacks and medicine side-effects. I did say mean things and took responsibility for it. But those words still make me cry.

 

[ProudWife99]

"For a while I thought you acted that way because you have PTSD. Now I just think it is who you are."

Yeah. When someone violently takes every ounce of innocence you possess before you can develop into an adult, you really don't stand much of a chance at learning healthy behavior. Sorry my rape is inconveniencing you and who you THOUGHT I was.

 

[Anna]

"You are crazy, look at you! You are crazy"

 

[TeddySue]

My so-called mother's favorite description of me as a child, "YOU SORRY CHILD!" When I asked her what she meant, she always said, "you don't appreciate anything." very descriptive... sigh...

 

[AngelaMarie]

"Get a grip".
"Drama-queen".
It was all in your mind. It didn't really happen. REALLY?!

 

[Philippa]

You're still dwelling on those things, that were petty, from the past...(In the "you're so pathetic" voice.)

Um, actually, those things you consider to be 'petty' were really hurtful to me, and they weren't nothing at all, but if you let yourself really think about how much hurt you caused, it would be too much for you, so you minimize it to live with yourself...at MY expense.

 

[AngelaMarie]

"Just forget it".

 

[emmacub]

'Cheer up, it might never happen!'
It already has!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

How about this one? "Forgive and forget"!! It does'nt say that in the bible. I heard this one from a pastors wife. Inorance is not bliss.

This thread was a good idea. Lots of validation. It gives new meaning to the phrase consider the source. LOL

 

[Innordinate]

I'm sure this is already in here somewhere but 16 pages is too much for me to sift through so....

"Tomorrow will be better"

So tired of hearing this.