What Would Define Recovery For You?

[Sandstone]

I am working hard at moving on, and have begun to wonder what being better would look like for me. I want to put it into a few words and have come up with this list, in order of importance.

Safe
Contented
Competent
Cheerful
Frivolous

I suppose it should be enough to stop after the first two, but I would like the other three as well. What words would you use to define being well enough?

 

[Deleted member 29920]

Calm
Content
Healthy
Socialising
Employed
Eating normal

 

[LilSam]

Safe
Sleeping
Free Thinking
Education

 

[user27357]

quiet mind
problem solved

my biggest energy drain is reliving past events, looking for reasons and assigning blame. If I could finish writing that book I would have the energy to do some of the other things in life like those listed by others here. Thats what I mean by problem solved.

 

[shimmerz]

Being independent again.

 

[Bloomy]

Independent
Employed
Calm
Present
Managable
Free
Blissfull
Education
Connected
Integrity
Love

 

[Jules1]

I am working hard at moving on, and have begun to wonder what being better would look like for me. I...

Frivolous sounds great. Fun and light and spontaneous. Something I have not yet attained... but the thought of it is enticing.

 

[Gs172003]

Just being able to enjoy my life. That's all.

 

[Hope69]

At peace with the past
Quiet mind
Connected to self
Content
Creative
Clear boundaries
Healthy relationships

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Calm, happy, content, healthy boundries, healthy loving relationships, having friends, having a career that i love, having normal emotions and being ok with them, seeing a bright future, adopted kids?, having a content, calm, happy life knowing that my past was wrong and abuse but it no longer defines me and despite my past, i am ok.

Sorry that i repeated some. I have doubts i will ever get to the above but thats it for me. What i hope and wish for.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I am working hard at moving on, and have begun to wonder what being better would look like for me. I...

Moving on is not the right term for me, I believe it only needs to be used by people that are leaving a mutual agreement. If no such mutual agreement existed and in many of our cases a predator set his or her sights onto us then we have to realize that a predator may want us to use such a term in order to gag us and tie our souls to their criminal and faulty imagination.

Therefore there is no such need for me to move on, what I am trying to do is to move past my previous predators. I know, there may be a lot of people who find this a rather quizzical reply but I want to really emphasize that there is a huge difference between an innocent victim and a person that has decided to end a mutually agreed situation.

 

[Sandstone]

I've been stuck for years, I want to move on from that. I can't use healing or recovery as the word for what I'm doing is only beginnings of the foundations for that. We will have to agree to differ on the terms, and focus on the action and the goal, which for me is moving on with my life to something better.