Boy do I know that feeling Jade...wanting someone to take care of me for a change. My T tells me it's that I am looking for the good parent that I never had. He says I need to be that parent to myself. Honestly? I get angry when he says that. I wish there was someone that could kiss my hurts away. Problem is...they aren't the little boo boo's of a scraped knee. It just isn't that easy is it?
I agree with Emmet, we need to learn the coping skills. We also need to take care of ourselves (I like that better than being a "parent" to myself). Finding that positive that makes us feel good about ourselves. It is so easy to say that we have to take care of the kids, our husband, a friend....on and on. Reality is, if we don't take care of ourselves first there won't be anything left to give to others. This is not finger pointing at all. I feel stupid that my T has to give me permission to do this, but if that is what it takes right now....I will rely on him doing just that and make it my excuse if I have to. Eventually I hope to be able to do things for myself on my own without feeling guilty about it. I Don't know if this rings a bell for you at all. Maybe it is just me that has that difficulty.
You are a good person Jade and you deserve to be blessed and enjoy the bounty around you. It's there for all of us, but we have to reach out and take hold of it for ourselves. YOU DESERVE the BEST!
I agree with Emmet, we need to learn the coping skills. We also need to take care of ourselves (I like that better than being a "parent" to myself). Finding that positive that makes us feel good about ourselves. It is so easy to say that we have to take care of the kids, our husband, a friend....on and on. Reality is, if we don't take care of ourselves first there won't be anything left to give to others. This is not finger pointing at all. I feel stupid that my T has to give me permission to do this, but if that is what it takes right now....I will rely on him doing just that and make it my excuse if I have to. Eventually I hope to be able to do things for myself on my own without feeling guilty about it. I Don't know if this rings a bell for you at all. Maybe it is just me that has that difficulty.
You are a good person Jade and you deserve to be blessed and enjoy the bounty around you. It's there for all of us, but we have to reach out and take hold of it for ourselves. YOU DESERVE the BEST!
