When Two Sufferers Fall In Love :)

[Red Dog]

After all my posts about my struggles, I want to share some of my happiness with the PTSD Forum. Initially I was very concerned about us two being together considering all of the problems we have faced, but now that it's been nearly two years, I feel like we have really grown so much. The thing is that I realize is that even though our traumas were very different, we understand each other, relate, connect and trust each other and I can't help but think that the fact that we are both PTSD sufferers (at least in part) has actually helped our relationship.

Everyone is different and I'm not suggesting that others should necessarily seek out another sufferer as a partner, but I just wanted to share some of my joy with all of you! I also feel like all of our troubles have actually brought us together, we have had to take so many risks, trust our inner strength, and our intimacy has continued to grow beyond what I previously thought I was capable of!

 

[NIKI]

Congratulations for your happiness! You deserve it!.:)

 

[Tinyflame]

That's true, about the risks, communication etc.

Maybe also you both realize, in understanding (having) ptsd, that it helps to be kinder and patient with each other. I feel so badly for my sister, her SO does not understand, he is not good to his word, not kind frequently, does not realize how it feels or the implications (long term). Shattered trust, for sure. Needless to say he's let her down again, they are on the 'outs', and I imagine she does feel abandoned on top of being let down and all that it implies (including practically). :(

PTSD or not, a partner who doesn't grasp that or isn't kind, well that's just an awful experience, from my experiences.

I am happy for you both though, :hug:.

 

[The Albatross]

Best wishes for your mutual happiness and continued growth. It is not an easy path, but it can be a mutual blessing to be co-sufferers. My life partner's struggles aren't PTSD... but we know for certain that our families our sicker than we are together. It has been a unifier and a bond neither of us have been inclined to want to break, no matter the difficulty.

 

[99Phoenix99]

Thank you for sharing. Reading this brightened my day :D

 

[HorseChick]

Red Dog

You are really lucky. My husband has c-ptsd and I have ptsd after sexual abuse and a medical trauma. We constantly cause stressors in each other. Both of us are needy and both of us are angry...at life and each other. I try not to talk about my traumas because it makes him more anxious. In turn, I don't have a husband to turn to for love, comfort, safety. My husband doesn't trust me and says so, even though I've never done anything to cause this.

I'm honestly happy that the two of you can relate to each other, trust each other, etc., even though I'm jealous. Mine is just painful. Maybe there is hope for me in the future. Thanks again

 

[Lina]

I'm glad you chose to post this. It gave me some hope. Thank you, and may your relationship be blessed. :)