When Will I Learn!! Help Me!!

[Rivergirl]

Robbed, as you know healing is not a smooth straight road. It has its twists and turns and setbacks, and I think that from going through all those you end up healing more fully, and even gaining new skills and becoming a stronger person. What's that quote---what doesn't kill you makes you stronger---? I first heard that quote applied to a kind of German cheese that someone was wanting me to try! :rofl:

Some days, I think are for when you feel like you can take on more of this healing and talk to your therapist and be in the group and deal with the police, and make decisions. Other days are just for surviving, and taking care of yourself, and doing some crying, and trying to find some comfort. You need both of these kinds of days to come to a place of being healed down the road.

Don't beat yourself up because you didn't do as much today as other days. That's just the nature of the journey. Trust that your heart knows what to do and that you will do it when you can. Everything in its own time.

:Hug_emoticon:

Rivergirl

 

[Robbed]

Message from Robbed's nurse

Dear all,
I am writing this on Robbed's behalf. She has had surgery this afternoon to remove a blood clot and pressure on her brain which followed an assault last week.

Please excuse me if I am not following any of this forum's rules. I have talked to Robbed about how well she has recovered and she contributes this to everyones kind words of encouragement that you all have sent.

Robbed is in intensive care tonight and cannot see. Her bandages will come down tomorrow so you can imagine how frightened she is tonight.

I have told her that we can still continue to read words of encouragement to her when she is awake.

Her therapist thinks that this would be a great idea and has approved for me to read anything to her from you.

Please continue to send her notes and I will read these to her overnight.

Robbed tell me she always puts a silly waving icon next to her name to remind herself to smile.
As you can see she is an inspiration to all who have suffered a trauma.
Tank you from Robbed's Nurse:hello:

 

[Jet]

Robbed,

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and that you are in my prayers. Please take care and know that we are all with you in spirit. Hang in there...you WILL get through this.

Sending you many Blessings,
Jet

 

[Rivergirl]

Hey Robbed.......I will be thinking of you today as I head into the city for a session with my therapist. It's a long drive so I take one of the dogs with me and play lots of fun music. They're expecting rain so at least we won't broil in the heat.

It must be scary for you to have gone through this surgery and now be in intensive care. I would be terrified if it were me. I hope you have some people to visit you, but if you don't, imagine these posts from us are visits, except without all the useless flowers and fruit and useless stuff like that that we would probably bring.

Meanwhile, your nurses and therapist sound wonderful. Just try and relax and let yourself be taken care of. I know that this is hard. But they know what they're doing, so just let them do it. This is a time to let your body focus on healing, so no stressful thoughts, please. Forget about the future and what you have to deal with in the future, forget about the past. Just stay in the NOW, right now. Focus on your breathing, and if any stressful thoughts come up, just let them move right through you and let them go. Do your visualizations of being enfolded by a beautiful lotus flower, and listen to peaceful, healing music if you can or imagine it. Do some breathing exercises, and some visualizations.

One that I like to do is, starting at my toes, imagine that I'm breathing in peaceful, healing energy with every breath, and breathing out any stress. I actually imagine my toes, and then my feet, and then my ankles, starting to absorb a kind of golden glow as the peaceful, healing energy moves upwards through my body. Go slowly.....slowly.....your ankles (several breaths), your shins (several breaths).....Don't move on to another body part until you have felt the last one totally relax and filled with a softly glowing peace.

Then at the end of it you can just bask in this peace, and imagine your body and your heart healing. Or you can wrap yourself in your lotus flower and drift off to sleep.

We send you our love and our prayers and our good energy to speed your healing, and today I will imagine myself holding your hand and sitting quietly as we just breathe.......just breathe.....

Rivergirl

 

[void]

:hello:Robbed,
My spine is tingling in a bad way thinking about what it would feel like for you to anticipate your bandages coming off. I am nervous for you but hopeful that your health will be restored. I hope that your hip is improving, did they have to go in when you were in surgery?
Did your boys come in before you went for surgery? I hope that went well as I know you were concerned about how they would react.
:Hug_emoticon:Can I ask you to repeat something after me?(silently if you want)" I deserve to be loved. I am loved. I deserve kindness and respect. I am safe. I am receiving the care and support I deserve. I will recover. I will heal. I will feel good again. I will hold hope deep in my heart. I feel the compassion and caring that is coming from the forum. I was robbed in my life, but in the future I will create a life of freedom, peace and self-fulfillment."
Know that we are on your side sending caring through the internet. May peace replace your pain.

:Hug_emoticon:Hugs to you from your friend:Hug_emoticon:
Void

 

[Robbed]

Update of her surgery- eye sight has returned !!

Many thanks for the messages overnight.
Robbed had asked me to fill you in on her progress.
She has had her bandages off this morning and she has got her eyesight back. It is abit blurry at present so she had asked me to type this for her.

The surgeon did not attempt anything with the her hip as they were concerned about the length of her other surgery. This may need to be looked at a later time.

Robbed’s boys did come in to see her before surgery. One is struggling more than the other. Both have been allocated a counselor. They do not know about the rape but only about the assault, This was at Robbed request.

I continued to read messages to her overnight and both staff and therapist and patient find this very helpful.

She should be transferred back to the Psych hospital next week.
Robbed’s Nurse

 

[Robbed]

Sorry about the font

sorry about the font. I cut and pasted this into the forum I hope you can read this
Robbes nurse

 

[Ace Ventura]

Thinking of you, Robbed

Dear Robbed,
Please know that you (and your doctors and nurses) are in our thoughts and prayers. (A big "Thank you" to your nurse for writing and letting us know what is happening at this point for you.) :clap: Though I know that you are facing many struggles, I wish you some measure of peace and comfort as you continue the work of recovery. Thank you for sharing this difficult journey with us...I know that it took an incredible amount of strength and effort on your part.

:Hug_emoticon:, Ace

 

[Deleted member 541]

I find this absolutely appaling that you would allow anyone to access your account here, and to actualy give permission to someone else to post for you.

There are places on this forum that only MEMBERS have access to, not the veiwing public. I am so pissed about this right now, and I feel very violated. This is just WRONG IMO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am really upset over this, and hope that this issue is handle ASAP!!!!!

 

[linasmom]

I am going to make Anthony aware - in my personal opinion, this ENTIRE thread has turned my stomach as I find it absolutely INAPPROPRIATE and that last post by "robbed" or whomever is now using her account has taken the cake.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Thank you and I too have PM'ed Anthony. I am so fricking upset right now I am shaking. When I shake ****ING heads roll.

 

[Robbed]

Sorry if I have upset anyone

Dear all,

I am sorry if I have upset anyone. I had asked my nurse to let people know what had happened during my surgery as I had been requested to by people on this thread to keep people informed.
I have my bandages off now so I can see and type my own posts now.
If I have done anything wrong I am sorry. I did not mean to breach anyones privacy and my nurse only read out my messages from this post. My T have not seen this site. This has been private to me. They are aware that I am getting support from here but they have not read my messages.

If you want me not to contribute to this forum I will understand I did not mean to do anything wrong.

Anthony please feel free to PM me Once again I am sorry