Where Have You Cried? (keep Finding Myself Crying In Public... Anyone Else?)

[AngelaMarie]

I almost always never cry around others. When I cry in front of others I think it's unfair because my problems are not theirs. I am just glad to be able to cry and having feelings. I shut down for a long time.

 

[Jestadud]

I have been to a few west end shows recently and find I over empathise to the extent that I will now only go if I can be sure of an aisle seat. Sister Act was probably the worst

Driving and crying is easy to cover especially if it is in sunshine.

 

[Jestadud]

People accept that old blokes suffer with watery eyes, aparrently that is normal!

 

[Pale Warrior]

Just had the tears watching coverage of the Dutch train crash. Got flooded by the knowledge of what so many families will be feeling tonight, the trauma and multiple injuries, the devastated lives. One minute your on your way to work...

 

[Hashi]

Well, I think you're all doing a good job of not being noticed because I never seem to see anyone else crying out there, only me! Or maybe I just can't see for the tears in my own eyes.

Gym, oh my goodness yes! So many times on the treadmill. I think it's because I'm finally relaxing and releasing tension. I actually like crying in the steam room, though, no-one looks at each other in there and it feels like part of the general letting go.

I don't drive for a number of reasons, but I agree with Jen - this is another reason to be glad I don't.

 

[Tinyflame]

It's hard not to cry for others, but hard to let yourself cry for (my)self. If it happens in public I'm horrified. In front of anyone, actually.

 

[Hashi]

Keep in mind I have 2 BS degrees and had tried for a year to find something reasonable, like lab work, but with zilch success. Then I started applying for things like janitorial positions; anything to get out of the house and feel useful. The last application in Nov was for a "zone engineer", which is a creative way of saying 'clean up crew'. I totally lost my mind when I was rejected for that. :cry:
I gave up after that; I couldn't take having worked so hard in school and no one would give me a chance.

712, I'm so sorry. I would be crying too.

 

[Anna]

Yes. I have cried in public. Also at work. I have managed to continue my work with tears streaming down my face.

If it gets too bad, for example I find it worse if someone asks you directly why you are crying. I tend to run to the toilets and lock myself in. Then try to pull myself together and carry on. It gets pretty rough going sometimes though.

 

[Queen Boudica]

The worse thing is crying in front of my children and they are asking me "why are you crying mummy" I have to make something up like I saw something sad.

 

[Anna]

The worse thing is crying in front of my children and they are asking me "why are you crying mummy" I have to make something up like I saw something sad.

Yes. I have this too. I often say I feel sick and have a headache.

 

[TeddySue]

The worse thing is crying in front of my children and they are asking me "why are you crying mummy" I have to make something up like I saw something sad.

My kids saw me cry every day for 5 years; and since they have shared every bit of the trauma that begat this, they allowed me to cry. I was totally helpless to even abstain for their benefit; we all shared this grief together. When someone chooses to throw their own life away because of sexual evil, it not only destroys them, but enfolds the lives of everyone in the same household.

 

[melody]

I used to get hit for crying so learned at a very early age to bottle it up.

I didn't get hit Pale Warrior, but I was criticized and told I was just doing it to get attention. It didn't matter that my "tales" of abuse were true, just that I was being a drama queen. So up until about 3-4 years ago, I only cried in the shower and it was quietly so no one would hear me. Now... Now I cry all the time! In the car mostly, but if I'm having a particularly bad day... I'll cry in front of a complete stranger if they ask me how I'm doing. I have no control at all anymore. It just comes pouring out.

So Hashi, you are definitely not alone.