Where Have You Cried? (keep Finding Myself Crying In Public... Anyone Else?)

[Chondra]

While at the Goodwill store.

Crying in public is relatively new for me. I never know how to handle it. Poorly in this case. I dropped my purchases and made a beeline for the door and the relative safety of my car. Then I laid down in my car so no one could see me.

I cried on and off all the way home too. Face a stiff mask, tears flowing. I was drained (pun intended) and exhausted by the time I got home.

 

[LiamM]

I've been crying in public for as long as I can remember. School may have been the most common, but even nowadays, I can be in the middle of walking somewhere, and I'll start crying.

Ever since I was a really young child, failure has been something that has terrified me. All sorts of failure, perceived, actual, imminent, etc. So, I often found myself crying in front of my classes and teachers. I still can't deal well with confrontations with a teacher -- I start crying every time.

It's so mortifying, being a guy and not being able to have the strength to keep myself from crying. Makes me feel even weaker than I already am.

 

[Chondra]

It's so mortifying, being a guy and not being able to have the strength to keep myself from crying. Makes me feel even weaker than I already am.

I was taught this too LiamM, and it is a pile of poo :poop:. I was unable to cry for most of my life, even at appropriate times like grief at the loss of my mother. It has been a huge handicap. I now appear to be making up for lost time, but if it means I can grieve properly, I gladly accept it.

Being taught that failure is not OK is also wrong. Even at a young age, you apparently knew this. In my opinion, this is no weakness, it is high emotional IQ.

I appreciate your post, it makes me feel less lonely and like I am in good company. :tup:

 

[Muzikluvr]

When I cry in public, it's usually just leaking tears, not red-faced or sobbing. It's almost like I could pass it off for having some kind of tear duct ailment. :D Hey, I think I've heard that excuse from an elderly lady before! :) I find myself crying in front of adults of any station, unless I'm focused on accomplishing something.

 

[heidi]

Once I asked someone if I could walk their dog sometime and they said no and I started crying. It was like five minutes after entering a party. Luckily it happened to be a party for people in recovery (which I am not) and wow they are very comfortable with that.

 

[Hashi]

I cried on and off all the way home too... I was drained (pun intended) and exhausted by the time I got home.

I don't know if it's only psychological, but I cry so much I feel dehydrated. I have to drink water.

 

[LiamM]

I appreciate your post, it makes me feel less lonely and like I am in good company. :tup:

And I appreciate your reply! It's good to know that I'm not the only one. :)

 

[undone]

When I actually was still venturing outside of my house... everywhere. Like you (OP), I often "come to" & realize tears are streaming down my cheeks.

It's varied between this & only in private throughout the years. When I was still going out (and not so afraid of interaction with people) and I was crying in public - it was when it was uncontrollable. But yes, I've cried just about anywhere. Including in kickboxing classes, concerts, , public pools, anywhere that there's a lot of happy, smiling children (picking up my sibling's children for instance, their birthday parties, malls, etc). That last bit sounds weird I'm sure, but I think it's me mourning the loss of my own childhood. Also: in the car, miniature golf... yeah, everywhere. You're not alone. :)

 

[woundedsoul]

I started tearing up yesterday talking to my bankruptcy attorney at the Hearing. I quickly composed myself because I didn't want anyone else to see, especially the Trustee, who of course is the Judge & Jury and in a Bankrupcy Petition.

Often times, when thinking about the unbelievable turn of events that have taken place in my life since 2009, yes, I tear up, unexpectedly, and in public places and with people I never in a million years wish to expose my emotions to. I mean, who the heck wants to start tearing up at a Hearing, in front of a man (atty) that barely knows me? Wish I didn't and it can be excruciatingly embarrassing.

The good news is: I was told tears produce endorphins, just like exercise does. They are a healthy means for the body to expel stress and tension. So give yourself a break, it's not like we're committing a crime or anything. : )

 

[melody]

The good news is: I was told tears produce endorphins, just like exercise does. They are a healthy means for the body to expel stress and tension. So give yourself a break, it's not like we're committing a crime or anything. : )

That's great to hear woundedsoul, I will definitely try to give myself a break. :)

 

[twopaths]

You are not alone. I wish I can hug you and cry along. :cry: