strongandsmart25
Bronze Member
Hi Mrod-
Don't be too hard on yourself. Learning is not a straight up direction type of thing. It looks more like up up down down up down up down up up down down down down up down up up up, etc. Only you can judge what is right for you and what you will do next based on the current information you have.
For me, I blocked my ex completely and totally from FB along with all of his zillion million friends. And it was because want to live my life completely unmonitored. That's what it felt like he was doing. Spying on me and then making decisions and assumptions based on something he saw on FB or something one of his friends told him they heard I'd done on FB from someone else (????!) A bunch of heresay, gossip and half-truths that basically spelled out a big "he had NO F...ING CLUE what was going on with me...AT ALL" so that's why I did it.
And it has been a HUGE relief. I am still in touch with him PRIVATELY via email or phone - those avenues are fine with me, right now. But I was sick of the High School type of drama that FB creates and I'll never go there with him ever again. If he wants to be "my friend" on there, he will have to marry me and he will have to learn how to live a life of integrity and tell his friends he's full of S---!
Don't be too hard on yourself. Learning is not a straight up direction type of thing. It looks more like up up down down up down up down up up down down down down up down up up up, etc. Only you can judge what is right for you and what you will do next based on the current information you have.
For me, I blocked my ex completely and totally from FB along with all of his zillion million friends. And it was because want to live my life completely unmonitored. That's what it felt like he was doing. Spying on me and then making decisions and assumptions based on something he saw on FB or something one of his friends told him they heard I'd done on FB from someone else (????!) A bunch of heresay, gossip and half-truths that basically spelled out a big "he had NO F...ING CLUE what was going on with me...AT ALL" so that's why I did it.
And it has been a HUGE relief. I am still in touch with him PRIVATELY via email or phone - those avenues are fine with me, right now. But I was sick of the High School type of drama that FB creates and I'll never go there with him ever again. If he wants to be "my friend" on there, he will have to marry me and he will have to learn how to live a life of integrity and tell his friends he's full of S---!