Why do people leave chat without saying good bye

[Esterio]

It's not just your problem. I feel like that too. It's hard sometimes.
But sometimes i do it to when...

Hi LilyRose
Thanks for your response. To check in is to say something to check out type /quit.

Peace be safe
Esterio

 

[somerandomguy]

I so will:p:p:p:p

:stop::eek::nailbiting::bag:
I've never been so glad that this is an anonymous forum.

 

[Esterio]

Thanks for all of your responses.
Bye be safe
Esterio

 

[Lucycat]

I so will:p:p:p:p

I already did!!

What country are you in?

 

[Anana]

@Esterio, I do understand you. Once I questioned the same issue in another forum and they just told me that I'm overdramatising and causing problems. I do believe people leave without saying goodbye without any bad intentions but I still don't understand why they intentionally not try to be polite and caring. And it doesn't make me angry I feel really hurt.

 

[Ronin]

Lives, things and other people needing care offline, heck even unstable internet connection, maybe? :)

But yeah.

 

[Anana]

Sure, but at this situations when coming back the next day I would type smth like "oh sorry I left you suddenly "... But here I speak about tendency not to say bye at all

 

[Sideways]

I can definitely see where you’re coming from - saying goodbye is polite, and if you have abandonment issues (common here), then yeah, a person just disappearing may easily throw someone.

But people here experience ptsd in a tonne of different ways. So, for every person who has abandonment issues, there’s another person struggling with a pervasive belief that “I don’t belong”, or “No one really wants me here”, or (and on and on).

So, while I can understand that some people might feel off when people don’t say goodbye in chat, I can also completely understand when others might suddenly feel the need to disappear under their rock.

Chat, on a mental health forum? I think probably assumes that there’s going to be a variety of different issues present, which you don’t necessarily know about, and a fair bit of tolerance and understanding is going to make the experience feel more welcoming for everyone.

Add to that this is an international forum - social convention in one place? Isn’t necessarily the same everywhere:)

 

[shimmerz]

Because it is the internet. Rules aren't the same on the internet. Which is an excellent way of rewiring yourself. When you get that 'feeling' remind yourself that this is the internet. There is no rule about it being rude on the internet to not say goodbye. And then try it yourself one day. Just leave.

Malicious intent? Nope.
Rude? Nope.
You just left because you can. And that is the freedom in hanging out on the internet.

Soon enough that feeling will be replaced. Try to enjoy the freedom rather than making judgement statements about yourself or others.

 

[Neverthesame]

So, for every person who has abandonment issues, there’s another person struggling with a pervasive belief that “I don’t belong”, or “No one really wants me here”, or (and on and on).

It's amazing how fast I can go from feeling confident in talking to someone, to wishing like hell I'd just listened to myself and stayed silent. For reasons that 99% of the time, have nothing what so ever to do with person I'm conversing with.

So, while I can understand that some people might feel off when people don’t say goodbye in chat, I can also completely understand when others might suddenly feel the need to disappear under their rock.

Totally. We all come from a broad range of places and circumstances. There's bound to be things that come up from time to time that cause cause a bit of friction.
I think it was a good question. It certainly has spurred an interesting discussion.

Malicious intent? Nope.
Rude? Nope.

This.

 

[Abstract]

Just credit to anyone who can do it at all. It seems to get my not so functional spaces. I can do a good impression of being pretty together but.

Can see both sides/possibilities though. How potentially difficult some would find people not saying hi and bye, the basics we expect in normal life; and why some need to drop out without warning and possibly sometimes don't even think it would be seen.

Can also imagine culture may influence things too at times.

 

[Deanna]

I wonder why people don't check out of chat? I wonder if you think about how that makes people feel tha...

Argh.. I'm guilty of it ( one time or two) I'm sorry! I usually do in my postings, on the board, but I forget about it in chat. I just thought people left eventually and finally came back to the boards. I never thought about it.