Why do people leave chat without saying good bye

[Esterio]

I wonder why people don't check out of chat? I wonder if you think about how that makes people feel that have abandonment issues? Just to be left not knowing if people are still there or gone. It hurts to be left with no good byes. Or maybe it is just my problem and I need to deal with it. I have no family to rely on and do come here to be social and work on my issues. This just is making more of an issue for me.

Sorry I am complaining.
Bye be safe
Esterio

 

[EveHarrington]

People come and go from chat all the time.

If I’m being ignored anyway and nobody is talking to me or responding to what I say, why should I give the courtesy of a goodbye?

 

[Esterio]

I don't see why people can't check into chat and check out you don't have to say anything just sign out and don't leave people to wonder if anyone is still there. I am not talking about being ignored. I am talking about knowing who is in chat if any. Sometimes it says there are several people in chat but no one is talking I don't think they are there. I go to other chat lines and you have to check in and check out and you know who is there.

Thanks for your response Eve.
peace be safe
Esterio

 

[bellbird]

Hi @Esterio ,
I don't think people ever leave chat without saying goodbye with any malicious intent.
I think most of the time it's down to being distracted by other things, or wanting throw out a single "hello world" to feel connected, without engaging in a full conversation.
At least that's my thoughts, anyway :)

 

[LilyRose]

It's not just your problem. I feel like that too. It's hard sometimes.
But sometimes i do it to when i get triggered to much or freak out about something. I try to at least say bye though when i was engaged in a conversation.
But how do you check in or out of chat?

 

[Lucycat]

Sometimes a knock at the door or the sound of the potatoes boiling over, means you stop whatever you are doing and deal with it. It is not a sign of rudeness or carelessness. It is a fact of busy lives.

 

[Mach123]

I wonder why people don't check out of chat? I wonder if you think about how that makes people feel tha...

I have a hard time in chat so I get it! It's so fu*king slow? I leave because nobody says anything so I'm like "fuk you ok?" I don't really mean that it's just exasperating. Besides the stupid stuff people say? Plus I think half the time the people are just needling each other on purpose? I have had good chats, like with you for instance but mostly I get tweaked and wander off and look at my email or whatever. I'm just too impatient to sit there and wait for the other person to come back and say "sorry the milk man came to the door." That sucks.

 

[somerandomguy]

Often I'm using chat to distract myself from other things I have to do. If I leave chat without saying goodbye, I'm probably just doing those things. Like working. Don't tell my boss.

 

[Emotional girl]

I don't go on chat but can completely understand where you are coming from with the whole abandonment stuff.
I have quite bad paranoia and when I come on forums like this sometimes it gets triggered by the fact that sometimes if I reply to someone's thread and they don't answer me then it will really upset me and make me angry.It will make me feel like an outsider and make me feel like I have done something wrong even on a supportive forum like this one.

 

[Ronin]

I come in and out of chat and in many ways find chatting way more difficult than responding to threads.

Jump in with attention issues to communication / not seeing the people and situations ones and disliking having just one liners to add, I am just one of those chatters that are quick to bounce. It is not about you, more about me and the communication method itself.

 

[Neverthesame]

I'm a lousy conversationalist.

 

[blackemerald1]

Don't tell my boss.

I so will:p:p:p:p