General Why Do I Still Love Her?

[ladybug08]

I'm not sure if "hero" is the right word, but they do think that all she needed was someone genuine and honest. You are correct about coping; we had a nice long talk this weekend about it and I think she realizes that she needs to handle things differently. The next day we talked some more, and she told me, "everything you said is true" - meaning that she's starting to realize that she doesn't have to be on the defensive so often or so quickly. I had told her it's not about who's right or wrong, it's about realizing that she does hear things differently from how they're presented.

My own father riddled me with guilt and for years I took things too personally, and reacted as though the person was insinuating something rather than just commenting. I learned how to react better and not be on the defensive, and it took a while but I've learned. We never get rid of all of it, but we can learn to control it better.

Could you be co-dependent? Do you feel like that you are the only one who can fix her?

 

[unbroken]

Could you be co-dependent? Do you feel like that you are the only one who can fix her?

No, I don't think I can fix her. She has to and wants to do that on her own, and I'm willing to stand by her and support her. She's not just my girlfriend, she is also my best friend, and I do know when to be a friend...that's no different from any other relationship I've been in.

She has a lot of qualities I truly love about her, and I believe in her. I don't want to give up on her just yet because it's still a new relationship and we still have a lot to learn about each other. The important thing is that we both want this to last, not just one of us, and we're both making an effort to communcate better.

 

[ladybug08]

Another question...do you think that her family is driving her crazy?

 

[unbroken]

I don't know. And right now I don't know how I feel.

This will be my last post, thanks for everything.