Why Do Some People Use My Trauma And Chronic Illnesses To Hurt Me?

[Recovery4Me]

This one woman (who professed to love me) told me that I look like an overweight pedophile just to make a 'dig' at me. (among many other vile and nasty things)

Wow...and you left her standing, no DV violence or PTSD acting out? Great emotional regulation, I mean honest to God grace, ok? That is something to hold onto, a triumphant that you can still be who you want to be despite the circumstances, taunts and to the heart digs. You are a Lionheart!

Everyone else pretty much summed up the rest of my offer...but this part I thought was important too.
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However, new boundaries IF you decide to let her near again might be reconstructed for you and heard if you elected to tell her.

For example one I offer: " I maintain and hold NC with my Mom and that's blood. So let me explain what I won't put up with ever again, so we do not have to end it- now that you have crossed my line. It will only be explained once, so listen close please as I love you & am playing nice."

But that's just me...

Peace to you :hug:

 

[Rumors]

you exhibited courage, Lionheart777, but it doesn't mean that others have the same character. Sharing your past with your partner was incredibly courageous. I am sorry she isn't worthy of that honor. There will be someone worthy of that one day, but it isn't her. Don't let her ignorance and immaturity keep you from trying again! I am truly sorry that you have had that experience and my heart hurts for you tonight.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Shark,
I want to encourage you to make your own post regarding that question.... You may get a lot more responses that way. I can't DM you as you're not a member and don't want to take over this thread. (Just trying to help so you can get more feedback!)

 

[Lionheart]

Thank you everyone for all of the supportive replies to this thread!!! Your responses are very healing and encouraging.

I am feeling heartbroken and dissapointed and it may be awhile before I am able to put that kind of trust back into a relationship, but I am not going to let it hold me back for long.

I will continue to hope and to try, (perhaps not with her), but I will try again....and I will find someone who loves and respects me enough not to use the past against me to cause me further pain!

 

[Recovery4Me]

respects me enough not to use the past against me to cause me further pain!

Wise words. It shows to me that you respect yourself! :tup: Nice place to start.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 487]

Yeah, I have to say I agree in most of the posts here. I also have to deal with it. When I tell people about my knowledge and experience, they seem impressed until they find out about my physical impairments, then all of a sudden I'm inferior and a liar.