Do you ever worry about giving too much detail / info online? Sometimes I'm paranoid that my T could read this and what I write about therapy, or details I've not yet disclosed. Call me paranoid I know but Ireland is a small place and if I give specifics someone could easily do the maths
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Worried About Posting Too Much Here
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EveHarrington
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Is there any comfort in knowing that flags don't show up to the general public? Your therapist would have to join in order to see your flag. And at that point I think the therapeutic relationship would be over------I know therapists do visit the forum, but for the most part this isn't really a space designed for them and as such, if my therapist joined, I'd see it as a major breach of boundaries.
SoSadGuilty
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I'm Irish too and worry about the same thing from time to time. If it is any help I haven't the foggiest notion who you are or where you are located or anything really. I don't think you reveal much about yourself at all. Hope that helps.
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Omfg this is exactly what I have been worrying about lately I
am new to this site and I have been so paranoid about posting. I got in some legal trouble due to my symptoms. I had to see a therapist who diagnosed me with C-ptsd. I really want to dialog with others as I am finding so much that I can relate to for the first time in my life. I have a trial coming up and I feel like I'm going crazy.
am new to this site and I have been so paranoid about posting. I got in some legal trouble due to my symptoms. I had to see a therapist who diagnosed me with C-ptsd. I really want to dialog with others as I am finding so much that I can relate to for the first time in my life. I have a trial coming up and I feel like I'm going crazy.
pixel
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Yep, worry about ths 100% of the time.
Constantly guarding references to location, family situation, occupation, hobbies etc
Slightly worried about being identified; mostly guarding against identity theft :cautious:
Strange tho: I dont feel like i have a solid identity! :clown:
Ironic
Constantly guarding references to location, family situation, occupation, hobbies etc
Slightly worried about being identified; mostly guarding against identity theft :cautious:
Strange tho: I dont feel like i have a solid identity! :clown:
Ironic
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Thanks guys, glad to know I'm not the only one. I just never know when to trust and feel like I open the lid a bit too much at times. For example, I've shared my profession, kids, specific ages, trauma / family issues etc. It's something I've struggled with in therapy too. Like I either say nothing or open Pandora's box and let it all out! Good to know about the location protection, only I think I've now referenced my location in text a million times anyway!! I doubt my T would join the site though I could see her having a browse if only to familiarise herself more with sufferer's experiences.
Thanks @SoSadGuilty I guess the real question is though, if you knew me in real life (which my T obviously does..) then could you figure out who I am?!
Thanks @SoSadGuilty I guess the real question is though, if you knew me in real life (which my T obviously does..) then could you figure out who I am?!
It worries me too,
I comfort myself that we're still very small needles in a very large haystack.
The last time I went to get a library card at a uni, I think there were 4 or 6 people with the same full name as me in that uni. If I used the Gaelic form, it might have drawn a bit more attention.
There was another uni with 20 to 30k students at the other end of that town and another uni still on the other side of the river.
When we chatted about me being in a cafe and the people knowing either the girl who Murphy was trying to murder - or the guys who'd disturbed him and rescued her - I think that was an exceptional one, everyone on the east side of the island knew there was one person who'd survived that attack.
I'm guessing that sadly there will several percent of your work colleagues who will have suffered ---- to a greater or lesser extent, and due to the nature of the job, many of them will be concentrated in your age range too - with children who are roughly the age of yours.
and T's will likely be too busy with work, home and keeping up with their CPD requirements, to come lurking here for very long.
That said, If I let slip my thoughts about authority figures to my T, I think I might just be a bit too easy to find on here:eek:.
I comfort myself that we're still very small needles in a very large haystack.
The last time I went to get a library card at a uni, I think there were 4 or 6 people with the same full name as me in that uni. If I used the Gaelic form, it might have drawn a bit more attention.
There was another uni with 20 to 30k students at the other end of that town and another uni still on the other side of the river.
When we chatted about me being in a cafe and the people knowing either the girl who Murphy was trying to murder - or the guys who'd disturbed him and rescued her - I think that was an exceptional one, everyone on the east side of the island knew there was one person who'd survived that attack.
I'm guessing that sadly there will several percent of your work colleagues who will have suffered ---- to a greater or lesser extent, and due to the nature of the job, many of them will be concentrated in your age range too - with children who are roughly the age of yours.
and T's will likely be too busy with work, home and keeping up with their CPD requirements, to come lurking here for very long.
That said, If I let slip my thoughts about authority figures to my T, I think I might just be a bit too easy to find on here:eek:.
joeylittle
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What you have to remember, is that someone would need to really want to go looking in the first place.
Id be surprised if a therapist really would ever feel that need. Even if the conversation in therapy was 'I've written it all down on an Internet forum for PTSS, but I'm never ever telling you' - your story isn't of interest to them; why you aren't talking about it is more important.
But - let's say they were just nosy...and unethical...without knowing the user name, they'd be hard pressed to separate any of us from the crowd of PTSD sites and stories.
Same goes for colleagues, friends...and if someone was motivated enough to become a member and try and figure you out, they'd still have a lot of work ahead of them. It's beyond mere curiosity.
It's why we emphasize having a unique user name here, different from the other ways you may be known on the web. Also why we remind people about the member trauma diaries being exempt from search engines.
Having said all that, I personally went through many of the same thoughts when I first joined. It's really not uncommon, especially for PTSD sufferers. But the likelihood that anyone would have reason to try and figure out who you are, here, is pretty much nil. And then, their ability to isolate you from the crowd...very much like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Could it happen? Sure. But is it likely to happen - that's the more relevant question. In my opinion, no.
Id be surprised if a therapist really would ever feel that need. Even if the conversation in therapy was 'I've written it all down on an Internet forum for PTSS, but I'm never ever telling you' - your story isn't of interest to them; why you aren't talking about it is more important.
But - let's say they were just nosy...and unethical...without knowing the user name, they'd be hard pressed to separate any of us from the crowd of PTSD sites and stories.
Same goes for colleagues, friends...and if someone was motivated enough to become a member and try and figure you out, they'd still have a lot of work ahead of them. It's beyond mere curiosity.
It's why we emphasize having a unique user name here, different from the other ways you may be known on the web. Also why we remind people about the member trauma diaries being exempt from search engines.
Having said all that, I personally went through many of the same thoughts when I first joined. It's really not uncommon, especially for PTSD sufferers. But the likelihood that anyone would have reason to try and figure out who you are, here, is pretty much nil. And then, their ability to isolate you from the crowd...very much like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Could it happen? Sure. But is it likely to happen - that's the more relevant question. In my opinion, no.
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Thanks @joeylittle. Yes I think I just needed to air my thoughts on this to get a 'reality check the facts' kinda feedback. I know paranoia gets the best of me a lot of the time and I'd like to be able to post more here when I'm really in need of support.
I know the reason I don't open up in therapy stems from my history of being mute during a period of my abuse. I regress to that state in therapy. That's also coupled by fear of my T's mandated reporting duty. I so badly want to give her background info, even if written down but I need assurance that she won't take it further and report it. I'm waiting on her coming back from leave to try discussing this with her.
I know the reason I don't open up in therapy stems from my history of being mute during a period of my abuse. I regress to that state in therapy. That's also coupled by fear of my T's mandated reporting duty. I so badly want to give her background info, even if written down but I need assurance that she won't take it further and report it. I'm waiting on her coming back from leave to try discussing this with her.
SoSadGuilty
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The living on Ireland bit does make it more difficult to relax simply because everyone really does know everyone else lol However you're not called @GWhizz in real life I assume and even someone who knew you would be hard pressed to find you without knowing your user name or to be certain it was you. Lots of us on here with issues that may remind a reader of someone they know but it doesn't mean that it is that person. Not sure I'm making any sense .....
Agreed that Ts are way too busy to poke around here. They have many clients, not just us, and trying to chase us all around after hours would be exhausting. Plus I know they're pretty focused on self-care and need to get away from all of this on their own time. And as Joey said, there are 100s of posters here. Let er rip. ;-)
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Nah. Why would my therapist care what I post? I mentioned this site and he said that it great I found a forum to show me I'm not alone in my symptoms.
If you're that paranoid about what others think then maybe don't post personal stuff. It's not that difficult; you have control over hitting "enter".
If you're that paranoid about what others think then maybe don't post personal stuff. It's not that difficult; you have control over hitting "enter".
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