Poll Would You Re-marry Or Marry?

[JustBe]

NO!:eek: Never have, Never will! :cautious:

 

[Loloma]

There are times I wish I knew then what I know now.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing isn't it. Being married and having PTSD is difficult unless you are married to a saint or have a kind, compassionate partner who understands what you are going through. On the flip side we tend to make bad choices when it comes to picking a partner, including at times choosing the person who most resembles our abuser(s).

If I was mentally stable and relatively normal for a few years. Yes, I would remarry again if I found the right person.

 

[The Albatross]

I said "no" but most likely "maybe would have been more accurate. Second marriage now, I don't see another one in my future. I know my inclination would be to head for the hills. I waited 4 1/2 years to marry my present husband. So, quite possibly, I wouldn't live long enough for another man to convince me. :unsure:

 

[txtrace]

I've never , fortunately, been in an abusive relationship but I tend to pick guys who have an inability to (1) be faithful or (2) work through the rough patches. And that was before PTSD.

I'm now over 40, have PTSD and experience problems with the physical injuries from my crash. I also have a hard time letting anyone get close. I'd say that the chances of finding someone willing to deal with all that at this point is slim.

All that said, if I found the right person I would be willing to take the chance on marriage.

 

[Changing4Best]

I voted maybe, like if the right fellow came a long and he was really patient with me about my being sheepish on the subject.

I'm a widow and just started dating after a long time of being totally single and dateless. It is a hard decision. My hubby of 23 years was a sweetie. That is until he had a stroke and suffered from dementia. Then he became violent toward me. I had to place him in a nursing home eventually and then ended up homeless for 3 years, long story...

The fellow I am dating now is quite a bit older than I, though not as older than I as my hubby was. I like him, but I don't feel any great desire to marry him. However, this is only after one date and a few visits to my home or his. Marriage kind of scares me, especially after seeing my hubby turn from such a sweet man into a nightmare!

So I think I am going to try to keep it just to dating and if he gets really pushy about wanting to marry, then I may have to cut it off. I pray this does not happen though, because I am a lonely person (as is he) and I am not in a position to meet a lot of other fellows, seeing as I live way out in the mountains.

 

[Orglethorp]

I voted yes.

I'm 25, never married, but previously engaged. Thankfully I figured out that he was the wrong person for me before we got married! I do want to get married some day, but only if and when I meet the right person. I only want to do this once.