Poll Would You Re-marry Or Marry?

[Sethe]

I'm not sure. Right now I'm in a healthy relationship with my bf (it has been about four years).

My sex addict abusive ex husband kind of killed the part of me that might want to get married again. I prefer the limbo of 'living together' with my bf right now.

 

[anthony]

Being married, if it went to shit, I would not again.

 

[Meadowsweet]

I've never yet found a healthy relationship with a man, and I'm a million miles (or a fair few therapy sessions away) from even contemplating a relationship. And sometimes it hits me, that I'm 38 years old and will never get to experience the dream of intimate closeness. I know the reality, but I'm a dreamer and I still think that with a lot of work, I'll get there. I might be completely deluded, but ever hopeful:). So I answered yes to the poll.

 

[Queen Boudica]

Oh ((((MeadowSweet))) You are 38 years old, there is plenty of time to get in those therapy sessions and to experience the dream of intimate closeness.

Life begins at 40 they say and 50 is the new 30 - it better be; I am 4 years off from 50! :(

Keep hoping, that is good. :tup:

 

[Sammy]

Currently going through a divorce after 24+ years of marriage - can't imagine risking this kind of hurt again.

 

[TranquilStream]

Absolutely! :) I think marriage will serve me well. I've observed for years and am pretty sure it will be an overall good experience for me. I'm also quite careful to take the right precautions so that I don't end up not being able to leave if I chose. I think I have something good to offer someone. Additionally, I know a number of good guys both married and single that I would trust and that gives me confidence.

 

[Nicolette]

Being married, if it went to shit, I would not again.

If it went to shit I would also never get involved with someone with PTSD again either... no disrespect intended. I just don't have that kind of strength in me and I don't like being alone while in a relationship. Granted things are sooo much better than when Anthony and I first met but I couldn't do it again due to my own issues which the symptoms of PTSD trigger.

I would consider marrying again but I would be very cynical about it and very cautious. I don't want to be alone either so who knows what life has in store for me. :rolleyes:

But then again this is all hypothetical as when we met I wasn't going to date men and Anthony had sworn himself off women for 12 months and it was less than a month into his 12 months that we met. ;) It's easy to say anything based on the here and now but who knows...... :O_o:

 

[ronin47]

It's not worth the risk. My chances of ending up in a toxic relationship are too high. I'm just not that motivated to look. I'll admit, occasionally I see an elderly couple still giggling and teasing each other like a couple of 16 year olds and I think about how wonderful it would be to have something like that, but then reality always comes knocking. I suppose it's not impossible for there to be a match for me out there somewhere, but I highly doubt it.

 

[Ajf7849d]

I'd love to, but I don't think I could ever do that to a woman. I've pushed people away in the past because of it. If I love a girl, why would I subject her to my insecurities? My paranoia, my inabilities, my sluggish pace. All of my classmates had a sort of meteoric rise their entire lives. Their lives are forever set skyward. And here I am, down here, trying to inch my way along up these hills into the deserted peaks trying to find my way home. I don't think I could ever forgive myself.

 

[anthony]

Yep... I would go back to casual hookups and f*ck buddies for that side of things, simple as that.

Good thing I have no plans of that in my future though.

 

[Nicolette]

Good thing I have no plans of that in my future though.

Wow... I can sleep tonight now knowing that :whistling:

 

[Innordinate]

Never again. Not worth putting someone else through all this crap.