Sufferer Hi, Newbie Here

[Jessica97]

Hi all,
Im jess, im 18 and im from the UK. I have very recently been diagnosed with PTSD. Last October i was assaulted by a random bloke, he knocked me out and broke my jaw. It was hands down the scariest experience of my life. I then went on to lose the house we were living in and my parents decided they wanted nothing to do with me in the space of 36hrs. Its been really f*cking hard. Me and my boyfriend now have a new house and i have a full time job, i work nights as a carer. Im off on sick due to the anxiety of leaving the house. The stress is unreal! I've dealt with some shit in my short 18yrs but my god this is really hard. How the hell do i deal with all this that i can't explain:(

Anyway , hi and im sure you'll hear a lot of me x

 

[Deleted member 34328]

oh wow! I don't know what to say. A lot of people here with a lot more helpful insights than I do. Not in your shoes but I hear what you're saying. Anxiety, stress, PTSD all together sucks big time! I've been on the 'very high off the charts end of anxiety' and I find it awful, exhausting, nauseating and everything else you mentioned. What do you do about it? Big questions. Different for everyone.

Have you considered finding a therapist to help teach you some coping skills? Is your boyfriend on the same page as you? I mean, is he a supporter for you?

Keep posting!

 

[Missycat]

Hi @Jessica97 and welcome to the forum.
Sorry that you had to go through such a traumatic experience, you have a safe place here where you can be yourself, share as much and little as you like and you will be listened to and supported.
I echo @stp2012 comment re having a therapist, what support do you have etc. I am sure you will find the forum useful and helpful.
I wish you all the best on your recovery journey.
Am sure will speak soon either via chat or a thread.
Take care and :hug: s if accepted.
MC

 

[NatBird]

I'm sorry that happened - sounds so horrible. I can relate to a sense of overwhelm.

Well done for reaching out for support.

I have the same thoughts as stp2012 - therapy?

There are kind & wise people here - search the threads too - lots of helpful stuff.

 

[GrayOwl]

Always nice to see someone new who has found this site, although the path that leads here is unfortunate.
First off I would like to welcome you here and to all the various, wisdom, insight, and healing that this site has to offer.

Everything has a reason, often not a good one. Like, people suck, or we do dumb things to ourselves sometimes.....put it all together and sometimes bad things happen to good people. Some of it can't be fixed - like random blokes that need to go to jail, but sometimes we need to up our learning curve to protect ourselves better or avoid unpleasant circumstances, learn how to avoid, deal with abusers, plan exit strategies and escape routes - or to look for "positives" in our lives that encourage us and help us to feel better and feel that life is living. If I had all the answers, or any for that matter, I might not be here myself.

There are a lot of sh*tty d*mb*ss people out there that do do a lot of rotten things to others. Understanding that helps a little. It does not excuse their rotten behavior. No way.
As far as parents....good one. It seems that from about age 17 to 21 there is an alien force that takes control ---- and young'uns and their parents just don't seem to be able to communicate in the same language. That changes, and usually for the better over time. Both sides seem to realize the value of family - that is if abuse is not part of the equation. Give that one time and hopefully the folks will mellow some.

As far as coping...whew. Million dollar question there. Therapy is a help if you find a good one. Try to find healthy coping mechanisms - not excessive alcohol, drugs, cutting, gambling, sex, isolating, binge eating....pick any. Note I said excessive - no one's perfect so venting somehow is necessary.
A supportive companion is huge. Meditation, working out, a hobby, walks, feeding birds, even mindless watching TV....

Eventually the pain should subside and balance may occur, until the next crisis anyway. For me, staying alive long enough to get older and mellow - has been the biggest change. That has amplified all the positives in various degrees and helped me to understand and avoid some of the negatives and the "crap" that seemed to descend out of nowhere and visit itself upon me throughout life.

Keep in mind we never deserve abuse. It takes time to recognize it is happening and time to figure out how to try to end or avoid it. Remember - we don't ask for trauma or abuse nor do we deserve it in any way. And I am not suggesting in any way that your misfortune was in any way self-induced. Not at all. Mostly I live and learn - and since finding this site a few months ago my learning curve has improved considerably.
Results....very simply....somedays life is good - and I'm meeting some really cool people here with some great insights.

Hope that helps and thanks for sharing. Oh, and it's o.k. to take off work and have a mental sanity day. No guilt needed.
See you around.

 

[Jessica97]

Wow, im overwhelmed with the responses. I was not expecting that! Unfortunately im waiting for therapy, im currently taking velaxafine to help my anxiety but its only helping a little:( im basically being left to my own devices till my therapy. My boyfriend and grandparents are all trying to support me but its difficult for them as they don't truley understand whats going on and i think that's why i have ended up here looking for more support:( im now waiting for my court date to hopefully put this man in jail which isn't nice. Im struggling to leave the house alone ATM its getting very very hard. I've never really had my parents in my life. I've been on my own since 16 when they kicked me out and I've been icing with my boyfriend since, i rely on my grandparents who are the best but they have never been through anything like this and there is only so much they can do:( im trying to teach myself how to self sooth when my anxiety and panic kicks in but its a struggle! Thank you for all the responses, its nice to know people are here who have been through similar x

 

[Deleted member 34328]

@Jessica97 I can relate to feeling really isolated in your pain. It's discouraging isn't it when those who are closest to us just can't seem to understand. I think it's really great that they want to support you even if they don't understand it. You might suggest they read up on PTSD a bit. It won't personalize it, but may give them a glimpse into your world. There's a lot of info out there.
You may find some helps that connect to you. Give you that tiny boost to get through 1 hr at a time.

In the meantime, welcome to the forum.

 

[EveHarrington]

Welcome to the forum! :)

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of people who feel similar and understand. There is a lot of advice and support to be found here :) I hope that this amazing community helps you as much as it helped me, reading all the similar stories, and learning a lot along the way. Hugs if you accept :hug:

 

[intothelight]

@Jessica97 Welcome to the forum! :)

Fear can be crippling and the anxiety it creates extremely difficult to live with. There is so much information on this site that can really help so take the time to read. I hope you find the information and support here beneficial to your healing.