Sexual Assault Hiding In My Shame

[Angel_demon]

Hi I've never posted here before but I'm having some problems. I was sexually assaulted when I was about 11 years old. One of the thingsy attacker did was take a peach out of my back yard, open a hole in it, ejaculated in it and forced me to eat it. Now I have a hatred for peaches. I can't even pass by them in the grocery store. I'm 35 now shouldn't I be over it by now? That's note only assault but that's one of the ones that stickes wih me the most. Does anyone else ever go through this?

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Shouldn't you be over it by now?

No.

Not if you haven't worked on processing the trauma.

The "shouldn't I be over it by now?" attitude is the same attitude that many people give those of us with PTSD. They tell us that we should be over it by now.....because in their world, supposedly time heals all wounds (or something like that, right?) But, with trauma, our minds get stuck in the past. Its not merely a matter of it being 25 years later so we "should" be all better now.