Sufferer No Desire For Emotional Intimacy

[Maynard Nipplecorn]

Hello,
I would love to be able to unload all of my baggage here at this stop, but, unfortunately that's probably a pipe-dream given recovery is life-long.

What I can say is that my wife is a supporter, I am a sufferer and our relationship is just about as strained as it can get. I have been through a fantastic VA, In-patient CPT/PTSD program and it helped in huge ways, but we just can't get around the intimacy thing and its eroding our connection. She wants physical intimacy, I have zero interest in it. She brings it up constantly and I feel like she is tossing gasoline on me and waving around a lit flare.

I get that it is a HUGE matter to her and yet, I don't know how to deal with it and it is getting to the point that each time it gets brought up (daily) I find myself being more and more repulsed. I am madly in love with my wife, but, It would be easier to sex up a hooker than my own wife. It gnaws at me, it gnaws at her and it is just wreaking havoc on our relationship, our relationship with others and our place in the community to some degree.

HELP!!!

 

[Friday]

Are you taking any medication?

 

[Maynard Nipplecorn]

Prozac 20mg daily, Propranalol 40mg daily, and lamitrogene 200mg daily. I also take Vit C, B-12, Magnesium, Niacin and Rizatriptane Benzoate for migraines.

 

[Friday]

So you know that total loss of sex drive, impotence, &/or inability to orgasm is a side effect of both Prozac & Propranalol?

And a common side effect of lamictal is nausea? (Often paired with increased emotion. Aka start to feel a bit turned on, and then feel immediately nauseous. Although it can happen on its own. The propranolol has another similar effect, especially for male libido/impotence as it's a blood pressure med, so as blood moves south, tends to cause headache and dizziness).

Meaning any one of those three meds could completely tank your sex life. And two of them could make sex feel gross with a headache, dizziness, and nausea hitting before you can even get going.

I'd talk to your doc. There are meds out there without side effects that are risking your marriage.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Did the intimacy issues start after you started taking the meds?

Meds can MASSACRE a sex drive! Its a tough balancing act....finding something that helps manage symptoms without giving undesirable side effects.

Good luck and welcome to the forum!

 

[intothelight]

Welcome to the forum!

 

[Maynard Nipplecorn]

I am speaking to my VA doc about changing to a different medication altogether. My wife is pre-med and we have had the same conversation. Thanks for the warm welcome.

 

[Nighthawk]

Hi and welcome.

Good luck with the meds alot of anti depressants kill ones sex drive.