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Body memory - not sure how to release it

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I currently have a lot of pain in my upper back, not hideous pain just constant interfering discomfort. A lot has happened recently in my life and I really believe this is a body memory that I want to process....but I don't know how to.

My abuse (CSA) was never physically violent (that I remember) so I can't link this pain to anything specific. Does anyone have any thoughts on what I could try to release it?
 
I'm not sure if I have any advice for skeletal pain. Maybe others will be along who have dealt with it.

I've had skeletal pain in relation to vitamin/mineral deficiency but that's a bit different I suppose.
 
I understand that some of the more gentle forms of yoga can be helpful for both being more in touch with your body and releasing body memories. Either way, I drop in a yoga sesh at home every now and again because the breathing and body work combined helps with my anxiety, so it's a bit of a win win.

Still, pain in your back? I'd check in with a doc at some point just to be safe.
 
I agree, that it can be a body memory, but some of those are not directly from the trauma itself.

For me, when I have emotional pain surface, it is usually related to a feeling also in my body. I believe that feeling was in your body at the same time as the emotion that was too overwhelming to process.

According to Louis Hay, Upper back discomfort/pain is from Feeling Unloved, Holding Back Love, and a Lack of Emotional Support.

In my experience because it is not overly painful, it is not the trauma, but the emotional life surrounding it. And this means you are now healing at a higher level on your Emotional Body.

I think that is a good sign of progress. Well done! It takes a strong breakthrough or two to get to this part.

When I felt the feeling of being unloved, it accompanied sadness or depression. I also felt it in my upper back, and at the same time a Heavy feeling in my whole upper body, and a weighted feeling in my guts. It was not a pleasant sensation.

I tried to flee from it, but I ended up crying and getting a long tearful hug from my spouse. I let it out and cried and cried. It was a good release. That feeling has not come back since.
(That was my inner child saying "My Daddy feels no Love for Me!" He hurts me instead.")

That was this winter. This spring I feel Depression and Love Hunger in my body. Fatigue. And I feel "My mother never wanted me and resented my presence." This is much more stuck with me. I need to turn and face the suffering that this has cost me in my life. I have not had time or energy to do this yet.

For me there is always the temptation to dissociate the pain, to flee it. Turning and asking "What am I feeling?" and turning and letting it wash over you fully until you clearly feel it and can express it does not feel good, but it gets it over with and unstuck.
 
I work with a massage therapist that specifically works with victims of trauma. I have found it very helpful. Often I would have pain and as she was working on me I would start to cry. I often would not have a memory come with it but I would find relief and the pain would go away.

I have had times though where I would dissociate during the massage. So it was a little tricky at first. But positive touch has been extremely helpful with body pain and body memories for me.

It kind of makes sense if you think about it. Some pain is very physical in nature even if it is in response to emotions so it takes a physical act to discharge it...for lack of a better term. It could be physical activity like running or massage or being in water and checking into all of your senses....those kinds of things. I hope you find something that works for you!
 
Yoga, yoga, yoga... I just read the following article last night, "Healing Life's Traumas With Yoga," it definitely fit with my personal experience. (The site won't let me link to the article?? Google---- Yoga Journal, Healing Life's Traumas with Yoga, author Denise Kersten Wills and it should come up...)

Yoga helped me and continues to help me-- just to become aware of my body and be present in my body. It has also helped to work trauma out.

The article does a much better job of explaining how than I can ... the references to Bessel van der Kolk's work and others might provide some direction.

I would only add that I would specifically attend gentle yoga, hatha, vinyasa, or restorative yoga with a seasoned teacher. I currently attend 'power yoga' classes taught by 20/30 somethings... They are great classes, but the primary purpose is athletic, not healing, and many of the core spiritual aspects of yoga that helped me worked through major dissociation as well as pain within my body are not present.
 
@Leigh925

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Often I would have pain and as she was working on me I would start to cry.

Thank you for sharing this. In my case, as she worked on my back, I would begin to talk about my father (my "good father" not the memories of him as bad) and yet, the bad/cruel/unloving father emotions would pour to the surface.

At that time, I was still having amnesia for the worst of the sexual and physical abuse. I was aware of the emotional and some physical abuse, yet I belittled it and blamed myself for it, as he had done.

In this way, Massage can be a way to locate hotspots that need further reflection for healing.

Thanks, Leigh925.
 
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