How Do You Dress For T?

[KeepingTime]

is it just me?
Does anyone else have issues with what they wear to therapy? I always dress very modestly aka tshirt and jeans kind of gal. Or in the summer I wear capris and shorts and flip flops around town or in my house but I CANNOT make myself wear anything other than long pants to t.

I can put on capris and tell myself you can do this! But at the last second I will change before I leave. So I sweat it out literally when it's 100 degrees and I'm stuck wearing pants and sneakers.

I get the vulnerability of the topic of conversation. And maybe if there were a desk between us or something. I just can't figure this one out.

 

[Eagle3]

I can understand how that might be an issue for someone. Dressing for my T is a question of what's more practical. Since there are times he does full accupressure sessions (gotta be nekkid for those, but I'm under a sheet) or energy healing, I've stopped wearing a bra just because I hate wearing them, and awkward when he asks for it to be removed. This makes the last couple of sessions even more "interesting" since he's been using hugs to help me get in touch with some kind of emotion. Good thing I really trust this guy!

Basically, I wear cargo shorts and a t-shirt. Its too hot around here for anything more. Sometimes, if its really hot, I'll wear a tank top (with bra!), but that shows off my Kanji tattoo. I'm not a fan of showing off my tatts, but he seems to appreciate them. My shoes come off as soon as I stretch out on the couch. I'm such a slob! But he really seems to appreciate the fact that I am taking such ownership of the space. He likes me to be comfy and at home in the office.

The choices of what you wear are an indication of how you perceive the relationship. They may notice, they may not care, but each person has their own path to follow. Do what's comfortable for you. That's all that matters.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

is it just me?

Nope, not just you. I dont do this anymore as at this point I would wear my PJs to my therapist (with a bra lol) but i used to dress like I was going to a date. Transference.

Ive always, still do, and likely always will wear flip flops as i have to put my feet on the couch. Ive worn sneakers on accident but took them off. Its a therapy ritual. Go in. Take off my shoes if im wearing sneakers and put them on at like 10 til.

I always wear jeans, 100% of the year so im rather used to it.

 

[Panda Bear]

I tend to wear a variety of clothing when going to see T. The one thing I'm not super comfortable with, is tank tops in the summer. But I'm generally not comfortable with them outside of the house anyways(because I'm uncomfortable with my body's not that I shouldn't) I do every once in a while commit a fashion crime and wear my legging and I always feel dumb when I do. But I have a sensory processing disorder and some days it's just a hell of a lotta work to wear 'pants'

One time I came to an appointment straight from a muddy, family hiking trip and I didn't have time to change my pants and shoes. I was very uncomfortable...and he noticed!

Side note, T almost ALWAYS notices when I wear something new and makes a verbal note of it. In a good way....but that's because when I started with him 4.5yrs ago, I almost never bought myself new cloths and didn't have a varried wardrobe.

 

[Crow]

I am venturing into the girly side of things so if I feel like it, sometimes I wear my newer clothes with accessories and T acts as a fashion consultant. Same with makeup. I think she can judge where I'm at by my clothing. Holy jeans & old t? Not a good place. Skirt and feminine flowy blouse? I'm doing pretty good.

 

[Deleted member 34424]

I wear whatever feels comfortable for the day and my mood.

A lot of the time I go in work out clothes.

 

[Naoru]

I thought it was just me, too! I aim to be as comfortable as possible, yet still pulled together, to keep my mind on the conversation without distraction, but I can't bring myself to wear anything less than pants. I figure it has to do with feeling exposed and vulnerable.

 

[EveHarrington]

I honestly never thought about it!

I'm very casual and go to therapy in my usual garb. I'm picky about my clothing so comfort and how it feels trumps all else. If my clothes are "wrong", my whole day can be ruined.

 

[UniqueSunflower]

Since I was seeing my therapist after work, I'd generally wear the same outfit I'd worn throughout the day (business casual) although I'd occasionally see her on a day off in which I'd dress more casual, workout clothes, jeans / t-shirt, etc. I've got a thing about wearing shorts since exposing my legs has always made me feel vulnerable. In general I wear pants most of the time...in seeing others post this, it brings comfort. :happy:

 

[Sandstone]

I wish I had a T to dress for. When I did, I wore what I always wear nowadays, grey or beige clothes that I could be invisible in. Sometimes I would notice part way through that they weren't as clean as they might have been, and be embarrassed.

 

[GWhizz]

I wear something I'm comfortable in and that I could walk away easily in if I'm too triggered and feel like I want to leave. I mean, I seldom leave mid session but I could see it happening, panicked and falling on my face in heels or something lol

 

[MommaRose]

I wear something comfortable. Lately I've been living in leggings. Last week I wore a new skirt, but it was kind of awkward. At least it was knee length and not an obvious look though, so it didn't draw attention to me through the day before my appointment. I don't recall wearing shorts on a day I haven't taken my baby (used to have mid-day sessions and my grandparents would take the older kids, now it's night so SO is home to keep the kids). I do have a ritual though. Put my purse on the right side of me, sit in the middle of the couch, take off my sandals, curl up, and grab a pillow to hug. Doesn't matter how hot and sweaty I am. Always grab that pillow and curl up.